I(24F) recently shared a video on social media the other day about how much I would love to f*** a character from an anime both me &my boyfriend (25M) watch together &he is upset about it.

For some context, me &my partner have been dating for 3 years now. But we’ve known eachother since we were 14. We dated from 14-16, broke up &then rekindled the flame at 22. We did keep in contact in between all of that time as well. So for starters, i am a dweeb. I love anime, i always have &i tend to be attracted to some characters (both male &female). But not in a creepy or obsessive way. I will just make comments to my friends, family or social media about how i find a certain character attractive. I almost always find atleast one person i find attractive in any sort of tv show/anime i watch. &i dont dwell on it or bring it up out of nowhere (besides maybe social media but its always a reshare or repost of someone else’s status/post)

The video specific to this story, i did not make or post myself, I only shared it &I did not write any caption. The creator who made the video has this series called “Animated men i would sell my body to at a discounted price, that discount being free because i would never make these fine gentlemen pay for a w**** like me”… as you can tell from the title, its unhinged, but hilarious. I shared it because i simply thought the post was funny as f*** &yeah, i do find the, very fictional, main character of that anime attractive. &me finding this character attractive, isn’t new news.

Now onto the “issue”.. me and my boyfriend were laying in bed one night watching a different show (not an anime) &we started talking about the height of this one character. My boyfriend said something along the lines of “i bet he still gets the hoes” &i replied with “well yeah probably. (Insert characters name here) is fine as f***”. He then proceeds to start acting weird &being quiet &this actually was something i noticed prior to all of this. He had been acting weird, like something was bothering him all that day after i came home from work. I asked him what was wrong multiple times that day &then, but he told me nothing. Then he gets up out of nowhere to leave our bedroom without saying a word (this isnt normal behavior from him), i ask where hes going &he says to go smoke. I asked “why not invite me?” (Our typical thing we do together) But he tries to play it off. I then press him about what his deal is &why hes acting so funny.

He goes on to tell me how upset he is over me finding fictional characters attractive. &specifically touches on the post i shared on social media. I start telling him that theyre just fictional characters, not real people. I dont find other people attractive &im not speaking on anyone whos real or i would ever meet in a million years. He tells me that he doesn’t do that kind of thing in consideration of my feelings so its frustrating that I do. I tell him weve never had this discussion before, ive been doing this for my entire teenage &adult life, &that if he did ever express attraction for a fictional character, i wouldnt get angry. Id probably agree &talk about how hot she is too. He got really upset at that &starts telling me that “telling the public Id whore myself out for an anime character” reflects badly onto him &me. That i shouldnt be talking that way about anyone, fiction or not &im “acting single” on social media by doing so. The argument got heated &carried onto the next morning. It finally ended by me agreeing to not share/post any of those kinds of things on social media but i stood firm on the fact that I do not think i did anything inherently wrong. That im not going to change for him but i can be more considerate of his feelings. He told me he was just going to start “acting the same way i do” about fictional characters. Which sounded so spiteful &condescending.
I just dont know how to feel about this. This whole thing is making me rethink this relationship. I dont like that he wants to change me so much or that he feels he needs to “retaliate” or act a certain way to make me do what he wants. So, AITAH for sharing a video on social media talking about how i would love to have sex w an anime character?