Throwaway because friends/family know my personal.

I (27M) started therapy back in August of 2024, but I didn't find one that stuck until October. I was holding out hope that the whole "your brain is fully developed when you turn 26" thing would fix me, but alas. Looks like I needed a therapist to push along the process.

One of the big things I've worked on in therapy is distancing myself from someone in my life who we'll just call V (33M). My big struggle of finding a good fit at first came from me cutting them off after they suggested he wasn't a positive force in my life. After two therapist break ups, I decided to stick with the third one. I figured maybe that pattern was something to pay attention to.

V is my best friend / love of my life / the root of all my worst decisions depending on who you ask and when you ask them. I stopped sleeping with him back in November and haven't spoken to him much since then. Like, 2025 was officially the year of getting my shit together. My career is taking off, I've got good friends and a decent apartment. I'm good.

Then I had too much to drink at my sister's wedding reception. It was only about an hour and a half drive from the venue to where V lives, so I asked him to come by. He did, we hooked up in the hotel, and then he left immediately after.

Him leaving kind of sent me into a spiral. It was only about 9:30PM at that point and I couldn't stand being alone, so I went back to the reception. I found my mom and asked if I could talk to her. My sister was having a good time on the dance floor, all of the formal festivities were done, it's not like I was taking away from something important. We sat nearby in the venue and talked in an area away from the loud music. My sister found us at one point, having come looking for our mom and was pretty angry.

This all happened last weekend. My sister is still angry at me for "stealing our mom" and "putting the focus on me" at her wedding. She said I knew my mom would come running to me over her, which I think is ridiculous. I feel terrible for making her upset at her own wedding, but I also didn’t know I wasn’t allowed to talk to my mom for a bit. AITAH?