AITA for letting my boyfriend back into our apartment after a messy night and upsetting my friend, who now won’t speak to me?

I’m feeling really torn and honestly just hurt by everything that’s happened.

My boyfriend (25M) and I (23F) have been dating for about 5 months and recently moved in together. He’s not from here—he moved countries not long ago and doesn’t really have a support system or any close friends yet. He’s also been dealing with some health stuff lately, so he’s been kind of down.

I invited him to a casual gathering a friend was hosting because I thought it’d be a good chance for him to meet people. He ended up drinking more than usual and got quite drunk. At one point, he had some kind of confrontation with someone in a more private part of the house and came to find me really upset. He wasn’t aggressive or anything—just clearly overwhelmed. A mutual friend of mine stepped in to calm him down, and he stayed.

Later in the night, I noticed a name I didn’t recognize pop up on his phone. When I asked, he brushed it off. We ended up going out afterwards with the group, and he kept saying he was leaving and then randomly reappearing. His phone ended up in my bag somehow, and when I was alone, I checked it (I know that wasn’t okay). That’s when I found a saved message on Snapchat from a few months ago—right around three months into our relationship. It was from a girl saying something flirty and giving him her number.

But what really upset me was that the entire saved chat was just a thread of her nudes—sent before we started dating, but still fully saved and sitting there.

I was shocked and hurt. My friend, who’s been through something similar, comforted me. I later confronted him, and he stormed off. My friend came back to my place with me, and I told her clearly that I was going to let him in when he came back—I just didn’t feel right leaving him outside all night with nowhere to go.

When he showed up, we ended up arguing. At some point, we heard my friend crying. She said she felt scared and needed to leave. I offered to get her a ride, but she called her own.

I ended up talking things through with my boyfriend and decided to forgive him. I’m not saying everything he did was okay, but I also know he was in a really low place, and I didn’t want to just shut him out when he was struggling.

My friend hasn’t spoken to me since. She hasn’t responded to messages or reached out at all. And while I understand that night was a lot for everyone, I can’t help but feel really sad and confused that she just cut me off.

So… AITA for forgiving my boyfriend and letting him back in, even though it clearly upset her? Looking for advice more on the friendship pls. I’ve forgiven my bf and I just want my friend back.