Hi so me and my gf have some opposite views on some things and its kind of annoying at time. So tonight we got into a little argument about this topic because we were watching instagram reels and we came across a video of a lgbtq flag getting lifted up onto a pole because one of the people putting it up had a trans friend that died... and i dont remember how it got to this but she said trans women arent women and she has said this stuff before and with me being in that trans spectrum (im nb) it really hurts me and we have almost broken up over it before. So i told her that she killed the mood and i left the room to go to the couch for like an hour. I come back and i said for her to apologize to me and which she did some half asses apology saying she is sorry for upsetting me. I try having her tell me exactly what she said so she could apologize correctly for it but she says she forgot what she said so i remind her and i said to just say that trans women are women and she said "no, i dont believe that". And i just dont get why people have such an issue with something that wont bother them at all so i get a little frustrated and she then says how i have my opinions on religion and how i dont say nice things about it and how she doesnt get storm off when i say those things... to which i respond "yeah those are not the same at all, one you choose and one you dont.". To which she catches an attitude about it and i just respond with fuck religion and its fake shit. And she gets mad at it which is whatever but im not talking to her and she not to me and we are about to go to bed so i personally wanna know like what can i say to her to form a good argument about this topic or whos wrong and what not please and thank you.

(we are 20 btw and i apologize if this looks ugly and i do really love her)