A friend (24F) and I (26F) play a game online with a mutual friend (22F) who introduced us to each other. She, (the 22 we'll refer to as "E") has been telling my friend and I how much she's wanted to be included in our online group games since even though we all play the same game, we've never included her in the majority of the things we do in game for the past several years.

"E" kept asking us over the years, so we finally decided to let her in. We played for about a week, and it became clear that "E" didn't understand that our condition of letting her in was to fully commit all of her in game time with us since there's a lot of things we want to run, and if she really wants to join us, she'll need to prioritize us over anything else she wants to do in the game.

"E" got mad at us over these so-called "unrealistic expectations" and not "clarifying the requirements" before she already spent a week of 40hr online time to play with us. She said she can compromise by doing most of the things we run together, and still joining us for 40hr+ weeks every now and then--but I told her that wasn't good enough, and that if she can't fully commit, she would need to leave. I don't want anyone in my group that can't commit fully to the schedule I create for us.

Now she's mad and acting all hurt, saying that we, as her friends, betrayed her and I'm afraid she's going to not be my friend anymore, when all I did was treat her like I would treat anyone else who wants to be in a group with me--which I told her I would do at the start. AITAH?