For context me (M27) and my gf (F28) have been dating for 3 years and this entire time I've been supporting her financially because she is in a rough spot.

Before we met I was living in a big city and she was living in a rural area 3 hours drive away. During COVID I was allowed to work remotely so I stayed with her for some time. Her living conditions were depressing. She is an avid video game player but doesn't even have internet or furniture. She worked night shifts at a factory nearby. She had no friends in the neighborhood. I bought a TV for her apartment and paid for WiFi (I needed it to work anyway).

Then COVID was over and my company needed me to start going back to the office. I told her I had to go back to the city but would come visit every weekend but she wouldn't have it. Without telling me first, she quit her depressing factory job that was also housing her which meant she was going to lose her apartment too. Then she told me she was going to move to the city with me. She was going to lose her apartment so I had no choice but to agree.

I let her move to the city with me and my place was too small so we moved to an apartment together. I was patient with her and told her she can take her time to find a job, I won't give her any financial burdens. I chose an apartment that I didn't mind paying rent for by myself in case she decided to move back or if we broke up.

I don't ask her to help pay rent or bills, but I tell her she's able to she can help pay however much she wants. In our 2.5 years in this new apartment she's helped pay rent or bills a total of maybe 4 months.

When we eat out I pay 90% of the time. Sometimes we will split the bill and on rare occasions she would pay. She works at a restaurant and makes enough for most of her needs. I work a modest office job and make barely enough to keep this lifestyle of supporting the both of us without completely living paycheck to paycheck.

Recently her mom broke up with her bf and moved out and is also in a tough spot. We helped her move her things to her new apartment and I noticed in her new place she would just be sleeping on a futon on the floor. This is normal in the country we live in but I feel bad because she's old and may have trouble getting out of bed, so I bought her mom a bed frame. I also helped pay her mom's phone bills for a couple months.

This whole time I was patient with my gf. I never tried to make her feel guilty and told her it's ok I can support the both of us like this until we're in a better place and she starts saving up money.

The only regret I have is that 3 years ago I was saving money to buy my mom a new car because I'm worried about her being behind the wheel at her age in her extremely old 1995 Suzuki Vitara. I never got to save the money for this in the end and feel terrible about it. My gf is aware of this but I always tell her it's not her fault and that this was my decision to help her.

Ok so my gd and I just had a fight 20 minutes ago and here's what happened:

We saw a video on Instagram where an OF model was joking to her bf about buying him a PS5 so that she can do a scene with male pornstar Johnny Sins.

We thought it was funny, and my gf jokingly asked me if I would be OK with her buying me a PS5 in exchange for her doing a scene with Johnny Sins.

We both knew she was joking. She knows I would never let her do something like that and I know she would never want to do it either.

I jokingly replied something along the lines of "A PS5 is not NEARLY enough. You better buy my mom a car and pay me back for all those lunches and dinners!"

It was a joke. I was smiling when I said that to her. Of course I didn't mean it. I just thought it was funny and ironic how she is joking about buying me a PS5 for the possibility of sleeping with another man, but so far in real life I've spent enough money on her to buy dozens of PS5s without expecting anything back.

She knows it was a joke. I would never ask her to pay me back. Rather whenever I've seen she's worked hard and saved some money I would tell her to keep it to herself and not to spend it on me.

But she didn't take it as a joke. The moment after I said it, her expression changed and she became cold to me.

When I confronted her about it she told me I was being insensitive to her, and that what she said to me was a joke but what I replied wasn't, and it made her feel guilty.

We had a fight about it and now aren't talking to each other.

I need opinions from others. Did my joke cross the line if even a little bit? Genuinely curious.