I want to start this post by saying that I love my nephew and sister more than anything, and I love to spend time with them.

There is a 14 year age gap between me and my sister and we have always been very close, she is the person I talk to about everything whenever I need help and has been one of the only constants in my life. When she met her now husband of 4 years, we also got very close and he became like an older brother to me, when they told everyone they were getting married I was ecstatic, and even more so when they said they were going to have a baby.

I was only 14 at the time, the same age my sister was when I was born, and I always hoped that me and her child could have a similar bond to me and her. During the later stages of her pregnancy, I would often go to her house to help her out with every day tasks whilst her husband was at work, as I understood that she would struggle whilst pregnant, I continued this after my nephew was born, to allow her to rest and recover from birth.

My sister and her husband are financially stable, but still occasionally struggle with certain costs, so they were reluctant to hire a babysitter or nanny due to the extra cost, so, I offered to take of him after school to avoid them having to pay as much. I loved this, as it was a great way for me to be able to spend time with my nephew, and as he was a very calm baby, allowed me to still do my schoolwork and revise for my GCSE's. My nephew is now a 3 year old toddler, who can walk and has decided that running is his favourite way to get around, meaning he needs constant supervision so that he doesn't hurt himself or break anything.

The issue started about a year ago, after I had completed my GCSE's, during the summer, my sister asked if I could babysit my nephew during the days when both she and her husband were working or so they could spend time just the 2 of them, I, of course, had no issue with this. However, after the summer, she continued to ask if I could babysit, simply whenever she wanted me too, I still agreed most of the time, as I did understand that she was exhausted from work and taking care of her son after, but with my now busier schedule due to just starting college, I would say no every now and again, but this often led to her begging me to do so, or guilt tripping me by telling me how tired she was, or making excuses so that I would have to. She then also began to ask me to babysit most weekends, so that she and her husband could go on a date night, I would usually agree and I if I didn't she would guilt trip me again or make another excuse, this then led to me having little social life, and not getting to see my friends as often as I would like.

About a week ago, on friday night, my sister called me to ask me to babysit so that she and her husband could go out with friends, I told her I couldn't as I had an essay due Monday morning that I needed to get done, when she started to guilt trip me and make excuses, I finally snapped. I told her that it's unfair that I'm expected to take care of her son almost every weekend, and that I have to sacrifice my own social life and studies, just so she can keep her own friends, and I reminded her that she has never had to pay me over the 3 years I have been babysitting for her. She argued back and said that I was being selfish for not helping her out when she needed it, and that she only needed a break, I then argued that she apparently needs a break everyday, and it's recently feeling like I see her son more than she does. She told me how much of a bitch I was being, and then hung up without another word.

Saturday and Sunday went by without a call or message from my sister asking me to babysit, so I assumed that maybe she understood where I was coming from and wouldn't ask me so often anymore. But then, Monday morning I came downstairs to get some breakfast before going to college, and my parents stopped me to talk to me, I instantly realised what had happened, my sister had called our parents and told them. My dad told me that, my sister called them and said I had told her that I no longer wanted to spend time with my nephew, and that I was demanding money if i was to take care of him again. This, obviously was a lie, and made me incredibly angry, but I told my parents to what had actually happened and why I now had an issue with it, this also made my parents a little angry, and they told me they would speak to her, the conversation ended there I went to college.

The next few days went by peacefully, and I never asked my parents about what they said to my sister. Then, friday afternoon when I came home, my sister was in the living room with both our parents amd my nephew, she looked at me as if I had killed a person, then went on a rant about how ungrateful I am, and how maybe she shouldn't even allow me to babysit anymore, as maybe her son would end up as self absorbed as I am. My parents told her to stop it and they began to argue, but I was already upset by her words, as she has never said such horrible things to me, so I went upstairs to my room and finished some school work, before going to bed. It is now Sunday evening, and my sister has tried to call and text me, but I have ignored all of them, as I'm too angry at her to respond. Her husband has also messaged me, and she has called our parents, both of them telling me that she just wants to talk, but I keep telling them that at this point I don't want to talk to her.

I'm very torn on what to do, I do want to talk to her and work things out, as she does mean a lot to me, and I don't want to lose the relationship we have, as well as the one I have with my nephew and her husband. However, I am sceptical that if I do respond, things will just return to how they were, and I still won't be happy with the circumstances.

AITAH?