📝 AITAH for telling my (26F) now ex bf (36M) that watching a sex tape of him and his ex while we were having sex is wrong?

By Dizzy-Potential5363 • Score: 2 • April 7, 2025 12:15 PM


My (26F) now ex (36M), while we were having sex, took his phone and played a sex tape of him and his ex (which I know). We both get turned on by "prohibited" things, but I told him that was wrong cause his ex wouldn't consent to this.

I then asked him if he will do the same one day, with another girl and some videos of me and him that he took, if we broke up. He told me this is something he can only do with me, but that he has no idea what will happen in the future, but he hopes we never broke up.

I asked him to delete the videos he took with me. He got very angry. He said Im a shitty person, that he wouldn't do what I just did to him to his worst enemy, that I judged him and I'm fucking moralist about everything. I asked him multiple times to delete the videos. He got more and more mad. I told him I was going to tell his dad. He screamed louder and louder. He told me if I kept asking he was going to go sleep to his parents and leave me there (in his house).

I tried to stop him when he was leaving but he told me if I didn't move he would kill me, that he would break me and leave me on the floor. So I let him go.

He came back after a few minutes and proceeded to put his d*ck in my mouth while I was peeing. I started crying. He asked me why I was crying. I told him I was crying cause I was afraid of his reaction if I said I didn't want to do that (he doesn't take "no" very well, he says I always tell him no even if it's not true, I just have boundaries about some things but he never accepted them). He told me he was doing that cause he wanted to humiliate me and get me off my pedestal. Then he continued.

We then had sex while I was crying, he asked me again why I was crying and I told him the same thing. He asked me if I wanted to keep having sex or not, I told him yes. I said yes cause I was afraid of what he would have done if I said no. He took the phone again and made me watch the video, when he moved the phone in front of my eyes I tried to move my eyes away as much as I could. He asked me multiple times if I knew what I did was horribile. I replied that I didn't know and he told me there was no hope with me. He finished and since then we didn't talk anymore.

This morning he went with me to the train station, bought me some food and when my train left he went away without saying goodbye.

I'm honestly devastated. Cause I see no wrong in what I did. AITAH?

Edit: he broke up with me after I told him watching that video was wrong. He said this was the last straw for him.

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