📝 AITAH for telling my best friend that I don't want to be her friend anymore?

By MathFickle283 • Score: 0 • April 7, 2025 3:45 PM


So I (14f) have a friend (15f), let's call her Liz. For a little background me and Liz are actually related and I met her in 2023, we became friends in 8th and I thought we clicked really well. Then high school rolls around and I wanted to go to a different high school then everybody else, so I did. It was going good, but people from my old school said they missed me. The whole time I was there Liz would text me saying she misses me and it would make me kinda feel bad for leaving. My sister would also tell me how lonely she was. Honestly I didn't really mind the texts because she had her boyfriend and they were like two peas in a pod. Anyways about 3 and a half months in I started getting lonely and only seen my family on the weekend, also it didn't help that my brother (8m) would cry when I came back and when I left. Then my friend told me she wanted to leave her boyfriend, but she needed someone with her so she doesn't feel lonely and I thought "hey that's right up my path, I could be that someone". So I came back to my old school. At first I was kinda nervous about what everyone was going to say but I just wanted to hang out with Liz. It was amazing the first two months back but you won't believe it. My friend started talking to her ex and he started to give her snacks and drinks. Slowly she started hanging out with him again, it was okay with me because I would just hang out with my sister. But me and my sister sometimes fight over little things and just stop talking to each other and I would just see if my friend is free. Sadly me and my sister got into a disagreement and she stopped talking to me so I just hung out with my friend but most of the time I would third wheel. Overtime she became really distance and even the times I need someone to talk to she would just brush me off. For example this one time I got into a disagreement with my mother and I just wanted someone to talk to. So I texted her telling her the problem and she told me "stop being dramatic you'll live". I didn't really take it to heart but I was surprised. Then she deactivated her Instagram, which was fine because I had her snap. Now to what broke the camel's back, one time during lunch I sat by her and started talking to her but she cut me off saying her boyfriend was going to sit by her and said okay can I wait here before he gets here. She didn't say anything and got up and said Imma go to my boyfriend. I sat there for a few minutes then went to the bathroom and texted her saying "hey I think we should stop being friends." She asked why and I said you don't treat me like a person and she just told me how she has been pushing people away but if I really don't wanna be her friend it's okay. For a little more tea this is the third time she done this, the first few times I didn't really care because she would still talk to me during class but now I don't have any classes with her. Also for a little more context I don't have any friends at the school Liz was at so I wanted to move to make more and for a fresh start so when I came back I just had Liz and my sister to hang out with. Honestly I really don't know how to feel, sometimes I feel like I'm in the wrong but I asked my mom about the situation and she just said "bros before hoes" so idk AITAH?

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