apologies in advance, i am using reddit mobile.

my best friend (21f) met a man off of tinder (19m) in september of 2024 who lives 3000 miles away from us. they quickly got into a serious committed relationship and they met in person about 4-5 times. in february of this year, he proposed to her while visiting and she accepted. they were due to be married in mid march, however, she caught him cheating after discovering numerous women in his phone and called off their wedding 2 days prior. since then, she has neglected paying bills and rent, and not cleaning up after herself, doing dishes, etc leaving all of it to me. she says that the heartbreak has sent her into a deep depression where she doesn’t have the energy to clean up and spends all of her money carelessly to cheer her up. it is important to note that i got a second job so i could cover february and march due to her losing her job suddenly, but she is now employed again.

i recently found out that the pair are still in contact with one another and i will admit that i have been less than kind to her about this. for context, i (21f) and currently going through a messy divorce with a man i was with for 6 years due to his infidelity. i know people cope in different ways, however, i got back on my feet and she and i found a place together within 2 months. i have never once neglected bills, rent, or my cleanliness. i have not once reached out to him about anything unless it is regarding the proceedings, but that’s not the point. i told her that she will be covering next month’s bills/rent or she will be asked to leave bc i am burnt out. i have not had a day off in three months, working 70 hours a week.

AITAH for giving her an ultimatum?

EDIT: i forgot to note she has also given out our address to numerous men on dating apps and has invited a few over without ever meeting them, which makes me feel unsafe