I (25f) and my bf (22m) are expecting a baby together here soon in July. I already have two kids from a previous relationship. So this is his first baby. I’m currently high risk, on blood thinners from clots in my lungs, I recently was diagnosed with gestational diabetes, and on top of all of that I’m physically disabled. My right arm is half an arm and clubbed, I have both my legs amputated above the knee and been wheelchair bound for a year due to chronic pain. So healing after a baby is going to be hard as it was with my last two babies.

Tonight I told him I feel like my boundaries will be crossed having a baby. That I didn’t feel like talking about it with him bc I knew he would react the way he did. Which he did. He said that since he’s my support for having a baby he needs support as well. I told him that his mother can visit after we settle going home, but I don’t want her in the hospital when I’m freshly just having a baby. I don’t have my mom there either and didn’t with my second but did with my first only because I was extremely high risk due to being born with gastroschesis and having my disabilities everyone was scared of me giving birth bc of my health. So of course I had my mom there for my first child. I only didn’t with my second bc I wasn’t high risk bc I had a natural birth that didn’t jeopardize my health.

Edit: not in the hospital as in I don’t want her visiting at all due to not wanting to be seen by her delivering a baby or after because of healing. I just want it to be me and him.