I have been asking some questions about our relationship lately cause i have no friends to really vent to.

My BF 32M and I 24F have been together for 3 ish years now.

He has done a couple of things to upset me but I have the unfortunate habit off letting things simmer until i cant take it anymore.

Ever since we started dating, he talked about his ex all the time. To the point where i know her favorite musicians, movies, shows, her hobbies, what she studied in school, stuff they did together. I was becoming very confused as years passed by. I thought maybe he needed time to heal. Mayne he needed to get some stuff off his chest. But random stuff like that is weird right? He mentioned her almost every time we hung out, after dates. He always somehow mentioned her when he was drunk. It’s not always positive things, some are complaints. But im tired of hearing her name.

He still had her pictures in his phone when we started dating. He’d be showing me a picture of his cat from years ago and would swipe and there she is. In his phone, pc, ipad, anything that holds storage, her face was in it. I started to get real bitter and tired of it. Almost to the point of obsessing over this women to see why he kept mentioning her. Her account on social media is public and she still has all their tagged photos together. It’s like im living in her shadow… She’s everywhere. Her pictures are still at his parent house.

One night, i came home from us hanging out (it was a nice day) and long story short, this ex texted him in the middle of the night to reconcile. To apologize and ask to be friends again. He sent me screenshots of this conversation, which i appreciated, but it also didnt help much. He was saying that he preferred her to be in his life, that she is a good person, and saying that he didnt think it was important to tell ME that they were friends again but he will now. Idk how long this has been going on. Now they follow each other again on ig, and are cordial when they bump into each other. Which is confusing cause i had been told they ended on a bad note. Now they’re buddy-buddy again.

So i basically told him im tired of her, im tired of hearing her name. And he seemed surprised by this reaction and said he will never talk to her again if thats what i want. He genuinely meant it to, not like in a sarcastic way. But now i feel bad. Was i overreacting?? There’s no way any person in a relationship would be ok with this like wtf?? I truly dont think he’d cheat but i know that’s what everyone says until they find out. This is my first relationship and im autistic so im just very confused and hurt by everything. She’s just everywhere. She’s now suddenly friends with his friends. She’s trying to befriend me and seems hurt by how i reciprocate and thinks i dont like her (i dont). I Feel like im going insane.

TLDR: My bf keeps mentioning his ex. I told him to stop and now i feel bad. AITAH