for context: me and my bf live together, renting a place from his grandfather, next to his mom. we have now made a decision to move closer to our other relatives. i sent his mom a text, telling her that we’re moving and that i’m leaving first.(just so happened he quite his job the same day)

after reading my text she didn’t respond, but went over to our house uninvited and woke my bf up(i was out of state). she berated him about the decision we made together, and his to quit. his mom and step mom have done this to the both of us countless times. (getting pissy at our decisions, judging our life style,getting mad when we say no to them)but as a introverted girl, i never spoke up to them about it.

my bf called me immediately after, and told me about their conversation. i got fed up and texted his mom 👇 “not to be rude, but there's always a better way to do things than berating (bf) in all honesty you can have your opinion and ideas on things, but (bf) doesn't have to agree. he's hated his job for a little bit now from what he's told me, and he probably got pushed over the edge and went through with quitting. in all honesty he's prob not doing so good because he knew what was gonna come with him making his own choice to quit.

he's been telling me he's not so happy with (home state) and he wants to move back. but he's known you'd be against the idea im not speaking for him, i'm just saying what i know. if he's happier in (place), let him be. i know it's nice for you to have him here, and it seems nicer on paper. but he’s thought about it in every way possible.”

the next day she was INFURIATED. walking IN uninvited while me and him were playing xbox. yelling and cussing at my bf. telling him i was trash and that there’s “prettier and smarter fish in the sea”. telling him he should break up with me. saying i had no right to say everything i did to her and ‘accuse’ them of ‘berating’ him. AITAH? TL;DR lol