For context my (27m) old friend/ ex-boyfriend who is still my twin brothers best friend, got married a couple years ago. Due to a falling out I hadn't spoken to him and I myself have been married to my husband for 3 years now. My twin brother and I (25m/25f) have a discord with 3 of our older siblings and their spouses. My twin had his bestie join and one night about a year and a half ago, I was given the news that he would be ignoring my existence on discord calls via muting me. Well after a year of hanging out with my family over calls just to have him show up, neither one of us hearing the other, cutting each other off and overlapping because we can't hear each other. It's annoying to hang out with 4 of my brothers and they laugh at a joke that i can't hear. I finally hit my breaking point. I understand insecurities and jealousy but I've literally never spoken a word to his wife. The only time I even "talk to him" is in a chat with MY FAMILY. She's upset I'm an ex and that's fine but if it's such a problem I told him he needs to leave chat because I'm tired of the disrespect and just want to spend time with my family without being ostracized by someone. At this point, it's been a year of this pettiness, not a word from the woman who holds the insecurities and I'm done. I realized months earlier that I no longer strive to have the friendship I once had with this individual. (Sure he's my ex but I've known him since I was 12 and we dated for 6 months about 8 years ago now. We regretted it immediately as we both realized we didn't see each other that way) He's not the person I once was friends with and I see that now. But Im still not the one with the problem so I told him if his wife has a problem he needs to leave the group and make a new one without me in it because I won't take the disrespect anymore. Aita?