I (20M) am a computer science major and pretty good at coding. My friend (19F) from high school started the same program this year and has been struggling with some of the assignments. I've been helping her out for the past few months, spending hours explaining concepts and debugging her code.

The problem is that she's constantly posting these TikToks and tweets about how "men in tech are trash" and how "tech bros are ruining everything." She'll literally be texting me for help with her Python assignment and then 20 minutes later post about how men in CS think they're gods gift to programming but actually write garbage code.

Yesterday, I finally got tired of it when she posted a rant about how "male CS students think they're so much smarter than everyone" right after I stayed up until 2AM helping her fix her database project. I texted her saying I wouldn't be helping her anymore unless she stopped with the "men in tech are trash" posts since it feels like she's including me in that.

She went off saying I'm proving her point by being "fragile" and that her posts aren't about me specifically. She said I'm trying to "silence her" and that I should be calling out other guys instead of tone policing her. Apparently her posts are "punching up" so I shouldn't take it personally. Now our mutual friends are split. One friend says I'm being petty and should just ignore her posts if they bother me, while the other thinks she's being hypocritical by trashing guys in tech while relying on one for help.