Hey I've never posted here but my "friend" keeps joking around about depression and suicide and all that thinking it's funny. No it's not. They said they play off their own trauma by being "silly" but it's not silly. It's downplaying their trauma but also kinda downplaying my trauma too. It feels like I should be less serious since they don't take themselves seriously. I've never liked this person but I don't want them to die. Sadly they're in one of my favorite discord servers which fucking sucks. Im so tired of this. Gen alpha seems so obsessed with downplaying other people's trauma and stuff. They're always making it a competition. I was venting one day about my awful sibling relationship with my sister and then this person started joking around about it and saying that "oh well at least your mum isn't abusive" like yeah I'm grateful that my mum isn't abusive but I'm trying to find comfort by venting. They literally switched the vent over to them. And me being the nice person (I'm such a pushover it's pathetic) I am, I decided to talk to them about all of their trauma and comfort them. Well a couple days pass by and now this person is venting in a ROLEPLAY CHAT. where people are having FUN. They ruined the mood and then started joking about killing themselves and everyone including me started comforting them.(keep in mind there was a vent channel personally made for them!) well anyways I told this person they shouldnt take suicide as a joke because it made me uncomfortable and that I cared about them. WANNA KNOW HOW THEY RESPONDED? They said "fuck you" and left the server. Do I feel bad? Yes. Should I feel bad? I don't know. Am I the asshole? Probably. Was it dumb of me to say that even though they said they downplay their trauma with jokes? Probably. But to be honest them downplaying my trauma was fucked up.

I'd love advice on how to deal with this.