I like to think of myself as an open minded person, my perspective on many has changed over time and I don't mind modifying my worldview if I come across an idea that seems more valuable than other one. But in my friend group there are three specific people that, if there's something they don't agree with, they won't stop until either you change your mind or get tired of discussing it, and I'm talking about literal hours that they can and will spend debating with you, even if it wasn't your intention to start a debate. It's usually ok because I like discussing ideas, and most of the time when I talk to them I kinda am on the mood of doing it, but obviously there are times where I just want to chat with them. So today I called one of those friends while I was driving home, we'll call her G, because I realized that we hadn't talked in some time. So I called G and things were fine, until I mentioned having a debate the other night with one of the other two friends, I honestly didn't want to get into details because I knew what could happen, but she kept asking what the debate was about, so I told her and what my posture about it was, and suddenly the casual conversation turned into a heated, uncalled, debate that lasted one and a half hours. I ended up telling her that I had to go because I really had to go and that was it, I ended up agitated, tired, and a little irritated because it led to absolutely nowhere. Some minutes later, after I had calmed down, I sent her a voice note telling her that while I enjoy debates, sometimes I just wanted to have a casual conversation without the intention of changing my mind about something, I nevertheless thanked her for her point of view and told her that I would continue to think about it, but that I sometimes just wanted to talk to a friend without that friend challenging my perspective. I sent that voice note about an hour ago and she hasn't answered.

I recognize in retrospective that I should have stopped her right when I noticed where the conversation was going, I surely will in the future, but in the meantime do you think I'm the A-hole?