I (25f) have been married to my husband (27m) for 2 years, together for 6. We both work for a agricultural company where he and I are both managers. I have been with the company for 4 years and he 1.5 years. I have been treated very well at the company, going from basic admin role and a small salary, to a export and operations manager and my salary has increased by 3x the old salary. My husband has not been treated very well and totally deserves a job where he is valued.

Here is where I don't know if I am the AH He needs to find a new job, one far away from our current area, I need to quit my job and go with him. He and his family all feel it is fine if I either don't have a job at all, or start back again at the bottom. This makes me angry because I have worked my butt off for the progress and feel i must stay at my current job until I can find one of equal pay and most importantly equal opportunity, problem is it will be hard to find. I told him that this is what I want to do, and as before he and his family stuck to the fact that I can just do again basic admin, or stay at home. I told my husband that this upsets me, and while I will at the end of the day do this, I feel upset and angry at him and his family. They are now all upset and I was told I am selfish. Was I the AH for sharing this? And More importantly am I the AH for feeling this way?