I am 29F, I have a 33 year old sister and a 15 year old nephew.

When my sister was 17 she was violently raped by a man and got pregnant. She had the option to abort and most of the family was good with whatever she chose to do. She chose to keep the baby obviously.

We all had a deal that the nephew would never know.

My nephew has been having a lot of anger management issues pretty much since starting puberty. My sister put him in therapy and tried everything she could think of to help. He ended up getting kicked out of 3 schools and she is now having to home school him to keep him out of juvie. He has been a complete a hole to everyone around him. Recently we had a family dinner and my nephew was being such an a hole that my dad pretty much tossed him out of the house. My sister was in tears because of what he said to her and my dad was furious.

Now they have decided to send him to some sort of facility/ boarding school that deals with kids who act like him. They have tried therapy. He refused to participate. They tried gentle parenting. They tried natural consequences. Pretty much everything short of beating the sh*t out of him.

My nephew called my crying saying they were sending him away and said very nasty things about my sister so I basically shut him up and told him my sister has done everything possible to give him a good life. He shouldn't have existed and wouldn't have had she not been raped. My family has done everything for him they have loved him he is so fucking spoiled that it's ridiculous. He screamed and cussed out his mom because she didn't buy him a game that was hundreds of dollars. He knows damn well he wasn't going to get that game it was a ridiculous ask it wasn't even Christmas or a birthday. ( I believe this is 100% my dad's fault because my dad is constantly getting him everything he wants if my sister tries to parent him my dad steps in and babies him).

He is violent and we are sick of his bs. There is absolutely no reason for him to behave the way he does. He thinks if he acts out he will get whatever he wants but he knows damn well he will not and if he acts out he certainly isn't getting it and that pisses him off more.

Anyway I told him everything. I told him all the times he hurt his mom. All the sacrifices she made for him. All the times she has saved him from what consequences should have happened and now he's getting those consequences. She isn't going to save him anymore. The family is absolutely done with his attitude.

Now my sister is pissed at me that I told my nephew. She pretty much said she will never forgive me for telling her child that and it wasn't something any child should ever know.

I think he should know all the sacrifices his mother made. He is being an asshole and I'm sick of seeing him act like his mom is some kind of devil just because she doesn't give him everything he wants.