📝 AITAH for telling my older sister I can’t support her financially anymore?

By DiscountOld320 • Score: 3 • April 6, 2025 10:07 PM


120 (F) have a 40 sister she is older so she is obviously older than me she is unemployed and does not have a degree I however have side jobs and doing my uni degree in pharmacy so I would say that I have wayyy more money compared to my sister.

so l always felt the need to give her money and support her financially she does not have a husband and she has 3 kids and my parents r present they do prioritize giving her money since she has kids but I I feel like sometimes it's unfair since l am much younger than her and I have to take the burden and I have been making so much sacrifices and barley get any money from our parents bc she gets most of it.

I don't like to compare myself to other ppl but when I notice other ppl most of them their older siblings take care of them and support them and give them some money and the parents money would go to the youngest child who isn't employed but since my older sister is like that I feel like it is against nature idk if that makes sense??

Anyways, I kinda of had enough after she asked me to pay about 100$ for her kids food and when I asked for the money back she got angry at me and basically threw a tantrum she called me Stingy and cheap and that what kind of aunt am l if I do not help her with these kind of stuff I told her respectfully that I just didn't have the money since usually I do the paying for them but this time I genuinely could not afford it I did feel had for asking for the money back but I also needer money to eat and survive not to just play around with.

but she got mad at me and as usually gaslighting me and making me feel bad as she said that she wants to oooo herself and that she is going to sell her kidney to pay me the money back since I am being so stingy I told her that I have had enough of this and told her that me helping her in any way (I don't just help her financially but with other things too like taking care of her kids and picking and dropping off to school and many more) is the kindness from my heart and that it is not my responsibility and she should be grateful that I am even helping her bc other sisters would've not even thought about helping their siblings like that I told her that she never appreciates me.

that made her get angry more and she told my parents which just made the issue 10x worse after I was alone I started crying and having a panic attack I genuinely cannot handle this anymore this is too much pressure for a girl like me that is trying to survive life and nobody really has my back and the pol that r supposed to have it and support are not doing that. Am I the ah?

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