He has, throughout our entire relationship, claimed to have sleeping issues on and off over the years. These are inconsistent and always seem to follow a pattern. That is, whenever he's behaving suspiciously in other areas, he begins staying up all night and claiming he's struggling to sleep. At the same time, he has done other things, like becoming more guarded with his phone, or suddenly questioning/accusing me particularly if I do the same thing.

A few years back, during a time he was staying up all night on his laptop, and sleeping all day, and avoiding me, he was snooping on my phone frequently. When I reached for his phone, after having not used it in weeks, he slapped my hand away. He asked me why I needed it, and I told him to check the time, but he said that I was lying and that I was going to snoop which he called toxic. When I started to question him, and the things he was doing, and implied or even outright said I believed he was up to something; he turned it back around on me. He said that I was the type to cheat. That I would do so thinking that he had.

At the end of last year for a few weeks straight he was staying up on his laptop, but only after I had gone to bed, and claiming that he couldn't sleep. When I would wake up, for any reason, he would immediately put the laptop away. He said this was because he was already tired, already planning to go to bed, and knew I'd likely be upset he was still up. When he didn't care if it upset me before. When I questioned how, if he was having sleep issues, he was able to go to bed right away each night and it wasn't more inconsistent, he became defensive. I noticed that, if I stayed up, he would go to bed and did so with ease.

Now for the last several months, he's back to doing the same thing. He's staying up, but only after I've gone to bed, and is now starting to wake up after I have. He tri d to lie about it but it was evident that he had been up. He claimed he woke up and couldn't fall back to sleep, which he did but ony a few hours later, and nearly slept all day. He was waking up around 7am each morning. I know this because I was awake a few of the times and he acted like he was trying to go back to sleep with me. Or he just laid there and didn't say anything like he didn't want me to know he woke up.

When I've questioned if he's getting up after I've gone to bed to do something shady, he's denied it, and has acted like me thinking this is absurd and it's not possible to do this. He says he doesn't have an alarm clock, that he can't just wake himself up, and asked how he would know that I'm asleep. The other night he told me he went to bed right away, and didn't wake up, but later told me he laid for hours unable to sleep. He woke up before I did one morning, and on only seven hours of sleep which is unusual for him. He was clearly tired and yawned all day. At midnight he told me he was tired but then stayed up all night, and didn't go to bed with me, and was tired again the next day.

I stayed up all night a few nights back. He went to bed and didn't wake up the entire time. He went to bed last night with me, or so I thought he did because I woke him up, but he's been yawning all day and seems to be getting increasingly tired. This doesn't make sense because if he's getting as much sleep as he claims most nights, he shouldn't be as tired as he is. Before he started to have these sleep issues again, only a few months back, he was staying up but going to bed and sleeping his usual eight hours. He was able to go all day without being tired and even stayed up to 4am or later. Now, even when we are not doing anything most days, he is tired by 7pm.

He has done other things apart from this. Last year he started not wanting to go into stores with me much, or at all, and blamed his anxiety. But he was just fine going in alone. It seemed like he was trying to avoid being seen with me. He's also repeatedly contradicted himself about places he's gone, or plans he's had, such as a trip to a well to get water with his mother which he did a few days back. Something that he's only done one other time in our relationship, and I was suspicious then. Now he's supposedly gone to the mechanics today but has contradicted himself a lot with that. Which makes me think he's gone to meet up with someone both times.