My (40f) relationship with my bf (40m) has been rocky to say the least. My libido is much higher than his, and it seems to cause an issue with intimacy. In the beginning, we both agreed that our sex drives were the same, and as time goes on, he continuously refuses sexual advances from me in any form, whether it’s intercourse or oral pleasure. We seem to have sex only once a week or once every week and a half, and it’s only when he advances it .He would rather please himself, jerk off to other people online, or just do nothing, or so he wants me to think, than be with me. Am I the asshole if I quit asking him for intimacy? Will I be even more of an asshole to go and find my own type of intimacy that satisfies me. Things are just not the same, he doesn’t say sweet nothings anymore, or terms of endearment, I feel like he’s forcing himself to stay with me. And I would be honest if I had, but I haven’t done anything, but love this man with every fiber of my being.