I need to start with context. I’m F14, white and bisexual (though I don’t flaunt it around much). My cousin is transgender (female to male), pansexual and 15. He is also of mixed race, Jamaican and white.

We went on holiday not long ago with my dad, his wife and a few other kids in the family, after not seeing or speaking to each other in 4/5 years.

From the moment we spoke for the first time in however many years, he began calling me a racist, transphobe and a homophobe. this was unprompted and I didn’t do anything that could’ve caused this.

After a few days of dealing with him calling me these horrible terms and giving him gentle reminders that I’ve never been, and will never be any of those things, I was starting to become fed up.

I spoke to my Dad and his wife, his aunt and uncle, and asked them to tell him to stop. They told him and he stopped it for a few hours before continuing again.

A day after that, my dad drove me and my cousin, along with the other children to Tesco to grab some petrol for the car. Whilst my dad was inside paying and grabbing some other things, my cousin called me racist again, which seemed to be his favourite thing to call me as me and my dad were the only white people there.

I said to him, “Stop calling me a racist or i’ll start misgendering you. It ain’t nice being referred to as something you don’t identify as, is it?”

This shut him up very fast, and he hasn’t called me anything since. My dad and mums entire side of the family believe i’m in the right, including people of colour on my mums side.

My dads’ wife’s family (all consisting of people of colour) have shamed me for lashing out on him, even after me explaining my multiple attempts to get him to stop. They all believe as i’m not an immediate family member and not of the same race, that this was specifically an attack against him for being mixed and transgender.

That was never my intention, at the time i thought i was just making a point.

AITAH?