To start, my brother is the oldest child, 25, and graduated with a degree, my parents bought him an Apple watch as his graduation gift. My brother has also gotten a high school graduation gift AND my parents paid for his lawyers when he got into legal trouble by his OWN fault. My brother has since not done anything with his degree, met someone in a culty church thing, got engaged within 6 months, and is now getting married next month, plus is becoming a pastor for said church cult.

This whole argument started because I hadn't gotten a dress yet for the wedding even though the bride and groom had not included me in anything and tbh I didn't care to buy things for this wedding. They said I'm disrespectful and need to buy them a gift off their registry too, everything which is 300+ dollars. I said no way.

My brother has also asked my parents how much theyre giving him at their wedding because his fiancee's parents are allegedly giving 5k. This set me off because they ALWAYS give him money and gifts and presents and I am just so annoyed.

I'm a 23-year-old who recently graduated with a BScN in nursing 4 months ago. I didn't get ANYTHING for my graduation, I have never gotten a single thing for any of my graduations. I got a job one month after graduating and didnt even get flowers. NOTHING. I never asked for anything but sorry I kinda expected something after everything my brother had gotten.

I got upset cause they were angry I hadn't gotten my brother a gift. I then mentioned how they should write my name inside the card with however much they're giving him because I'm not spending any money on him. They got mad, called me an asshole and I said that they are always buying him things and giving him money for throwing his life away meanwhile I have gotten nothing from them for doing more with my life. They then said "Are you really going to make us feel like shit for that?" to which I said "There's no need to feel like shit, it's just the fact that you guys couldn't even get me flowers for anything but are the first ones to give him handouts" They then said I'm rude and an asshole to which I walked away.

For the record, my parents are wealthy, this isn't a financial issue. This story is a whole lot more nuanced than what I've mentioned here but this is the jist of it.

But I just wanna know, AITAH for throwing it back in my parent's face that they have never gotten me a gift for any of my accomplishments compared to my brother?