For some extra context my gf has a weekend girls trip planned and has had it planned for months this upcoming weekend.

My friend reached out to me earlier this week and told me to cancel the bachelor party and get a refund for everything I could because the wedding was off. I proceeded to send my pictures of text conversations between his fiance between a couple dudes that she had slept while he was away. This is his highschool sweetheart and they had been together for a total of 10 years engaged for 1, and the wedding was in June.

I told my gf all of this and she felt terrible and said we should do something for him and I said I would try to figure out what he's up to and when we could. I tried calling him every day but he wasn't answering but I knew he was okay because mutal friends said they had talked to him.

My gf and I had planned to hangout Friday night before she leaves at 6am for her trip, but around noon I got a call from my friend and said he really wanted to go out in nature and just go for a hike he referenced hikes we used to go on when we in high school which were like 1-2 hours hikes. I told him absolutely just let me know if he had a place in mind.

I called and told my gf this and she said oh well it's okay we don't have to hangout tonight. I told her I still wanted to see her before she left I would just come over after the hike.

I was snapchatting her the entire hike updating on what we were doing and how he was doing and the views of the hike until my phone died around 8pm and I let her know it was dying and giving her updates on the battery life.

We ended up getting back from the hike around 10:30 started charging my phone and got in the car to head to her house which is an hour away normally id get there at 6-6:30pm but now I was gonna get there around 11:30pm I still wanted to see her and called her as soon as my phone turned back on.

Which then the following argument persued that I shouldn't even drive up to her house anymore it's to late and she was upset I put her second and choose my friend over her when I told her I was still coming over but now it's 11pm and she needs to be up in 7 hours so she said for me to just go home.

She ended up driving to my house to get some shower stuff she had at my house getting there at like midnight and I told her I didn't mean for it to extend so late and I just had to be there for him when he reached out and be available not that I was putting her second or didn't want to hang out with her.

I write this as I sit in her driveway at 5am with coffee waiting for her to wake up.

TLDR: AITAH for being there for my friend in a time of heartbreak rather then hanging out with my girlfriend the night before she goes on vacation.