Hi. I'm 17, and am a thing that is very unfortunately called a demiboy (a person assigned male at birth and feels no dysphoria when perceived as such, but does not necessarily identify as a man; I say unfortunately because "demiboy" sounds ridiculous), and would present myself in a more traditionally feminine way were I given the choice. Even more unfortunately, my dad isn't happy about that, so I've decided to use his money to move out of the country.

A bit of context. I came out to my mom a few years ago, and she was wonderful and accepting. She told me that if it were not for my dad, I would be allowed to dress however I want, use whatever pronouns, you know, classic supportive, woke parent behavior. Then, about six months ago, she accidentally outed me to my transphobic ass hat father.

Now, my father is a very hard working man, and has sacrificed an absolute fuck ton for my mom, siblings and I. And I would certainly respect and care for him if those sacrifices weren't counteracted by years worth of verbal and emotional abuse, over a decade of a home I hate living in, proselytizing, and lack of respect for anyone who hasn't achieved as much as he has over the course of his life, which includes my mother. He does, however, want the best for me, and wants me to become happy, successful, and fulfilled with my life, and would therefore go any lengths of which he is capable (as long as I fulfill some related requirement) to ensure that happens.

Now, when I was in 8th grade, I decided to take German as a foreign language, and continued on with it through highschool. I am currently a junior and am in German 4, and if I may be so bold, I'd say my German is good enough for me to go to college in Germany.

Given the current political climate in America and the absolute havoc +100% tariffs on China will wreak on our economy, I've decided that leaving the country is my safest option for my personal life and my financial security.

My mother is not happy about this. She believes I'm using my father's faith in me to run away from my family and that I'm abusing the opportunities he's provided me, and that almost certainly compromising my future is worth staying close to home. She says that if I attempt to go through with this, she will attempt to convince my dad to stop it. Naturally, I was the most pissed I think I've been in my entire life and told her that she doesn't get to threaten me just because I won't come by to visit every other week.

So. My question for Reddit is whether or not I am an ungrateful prick whose taking advantage of my poor father's love and support.