I'm currently 6 months in with a 35(m) and I have talked to him about needing my space after he would come hang out and not leave for 4+ days, and usually at the last minute before I had to work or he did. Several times, he even barely left when I had plans that I had previously told him about. It almost felt like he was gonna try to stay at my apartment when I left. Anyways we fought about it and it dropped down to 2-3 (still too much every week so early in) and I kept pushing but somehow it's gone right back to 4+. I should mention while he's around he doesn't contribute to any bills. So anything he uses is my cost. Every so often he will attempt to make the bed or take out the trash but i'm sorry that does not assist with the financial part and i'm fully able to take out my own trash and make my own bed. He even had the nerve to discuss moving in together and things like that (not gonna happen) I also just recently found out he "forgot" to tell me that he moved out of his place he shared with roommates back into his parents. Now I know times are tough and having roommates and/or moving back home unfortunately is the way some people have to go, but I don't think that's something you just forget to tell your partner about. Also I should mention that I've NEVER been to either place. Not even an invitation. The only excuse I ever get when I bring it up is that we would have no privacy. When I asked why he moved he said him and his roommates weren't getting along because they had disagreed about cleaning and things like that, but when I brought up the issues I mentioned here, he got all upset and wouldn't you know he started getting emotional and it became a huge thing. I believe he always lived with his parents and just lied about it. (Further investigation on my part points to a lie but not 100%)

A little more detail *He some how keeps "accidentally leaving" clothes in my laundry area. I've brought that up and again he couldn't understand the problem.
*He packs my fridge with his leftovers (takeout stuff) and then I end up having to throw it all out after he finally leaves only for him to say I was gonna eat that (my thought is take it fricken home then).
*Has gotten a little too comfortable with yelling at my dog when she's being annoying or doing something I don't like. I mean loud yelling at her.
*shows up every single time with a bag to stay (several day size) *Feels anything I have in fridge, cupboards, and pantry is up for grabs and never replaces. *when I shop he will put things in my cart for me to purchase and when I say things he acts upset ( including personal needs like deodorant and body wash) *Will show up and immediately go to my shower after me, if I say I'm showering (water bill) (not together) *stays up later than me playing his phone on charger as well as my TV is left on *while I'm watching tv will turn it without a word which results in a fight *Will want to go out to eat and then takes his sweet time paying (while waiter is standing there with the card reader) until I eventually pay out of embarrassment. Then says oh thanks.
*at Christmas (1 month in) we exchanged lists for gifts and i kid you not. The cheapest thing on his list was 150. Wanna know mine, 9.99. A book. *continuously does things I've said not to at my apt and says it's to hard to break habits that he does at home (leaving toilet seat up, not closing cupboards doors, lids on personal items like soaps, toothpaste,etc left open) and when I bring it up says I don't think it's that big of a deal so if I do he can only imagine what a real big deal is. DUDE IS DOESNT MATTER. ITS MY APT. *thinks the spot in front of my garage is for him (his words) *told him I don't want him shaving at my apt because he doesn't clean it up. Says he does but all the black hairs on my counter and sink would state otherwise and considering I'm a very bleached blonde I doubt it's mine 🤦‍♀️ his solutions us to wait until I'm laying down or too busy( assumed I won't notice) i do love walking in on the fuck off face of i do what I want and will continue even though you're reminding me that you said not to do it at your apt.

I could go on and on but I think you get it. Now you may wonder why I simply haven't ended it and anyone who has a spec of heart knows easier said than done especially when they CRY. Yup...any bit of criticism or negative whatever and bam. Cue water works. Not gonna lie, kind of feel bad for people that deal with women like this.

So like I said...any help is greatly appreciated.

By the way this is just the using aspect of the relationship. When people say men have changed and became like a princess they were describing this guy.

Also note he does not have a key even though he has mentioned it.

I should add that in all this time I have never asked him stay. He always just assumes and does it even when I've made it clear. Always resulting in a fight. It's almost like it's his apartment that I just paid for

I should add the most current issue which is why I am here. A few days ago was my birthday and he offered to take me to a concert (fri). He had misplaced his wallet, so anything that didn't allow tap to pay we put on my card and the deal was he would just reimburse me, but I found at the end of the night I was out a hundred dollars after what he reimbursed me. I didn't make this a big deal. Then the next night (sat) When we met up with a friend of mine and I offered to buy them both a drink, i later went up to get me a second drink and he demanded I get him a drink as well on my dime. Like wth Then the next time we hung out (mon), which was my actual birthday he wanted to take me to dinner, which I declined several times but he insisted so I went which was probably stupid on my end. Because he had lost his wallet prior he again only had the ability to do tap to pay. So again, I would pay and he would just reimburse me, and upon dinner he did reimburse me with a couple bucks shy, because I ended up tipping higher than what he would have. He asked me if I would have a few drinks with him and we proceeded to find a place to go, which again some of these places not having tap because of the style they were I just kept paying out only to find by the end of the night I was between 150/200 negative (parking,drinks,etc) .

Obviously I know I feel used. I don't like it, nor am I going to put up with it But i'm at the point of how do you approach walking away from what I told you earlier Is a crybaby situation? And while I do enjoy him normally as he is a very sweet-natured person, is there a Way to avoid splitting and maybe just maybe he doesn't realize how is being or am I just being delusional......