This started when my(m31) girlfriend(f20) went for an annual checkup. I asked her how it went and what happened and she told me that it went well and nothing was wrong. I asked more about what was checked and she said one of the things her doctor checked for was lumps in her breasts.

See this wouldn't normally be an issue but her doctor is a man. I find it very odd that a man would be doing this instead of a female doctor or even a gynecologist (which she does have and they are a woman). I just find it hard to believe that a man, doctor or not wouldn't be thinking some inappropriate thoughts while doing this or even trying to make a move so to say on the patient. Plus I bet not only most men BUT most women would agree with me that its WEIRD that she would let a male doctor do this to her or that a male doctor would want to do this without any ulterior motives.

She said to me that she has had the same doctor since she was a baby and that he would never do something like that. I told her I think it would be best to find a different doctor from now on. She told me that she is very comfortable with her doctor and really doesn't want to switch doctors as she has been seeing him for 20 years and her family has been seeing him even before she was born.

I believe that she is overstepping a boundary in our relationship by letting another man touch her like that. She could easily go to her gynecologist for something like this instead of her family doctor.

Anyways reddit do you think ITAH for wanting her to change doctors?