** Background:** I (16F) have an older sister (18F) who is leaving for college in August, across the country. She will be back for breaks and the summer. My room is about 1/3 the size of hers. The only way my room is better than hers is that my closet is twice the size of hers. She has had the better room our entires lives, through multiple houses. That is fair and fine as she is older. Her room has a large couch and better bathroom as well as four windows. I have one window. My room has a bed, dresser, bookshelf, TV and desk crammed in, so I have no space for anything else and very little walking space. Her room is very large.

When we moved to our current home about 3 1/2 years ago, I was fine with my smaller room. I was 13 and in 8th grade so there wasn’t much I needed in terms of space. But I’m older now and I feel very crammed. I brought up having her room when she goes to college and she got very upset and started crying. My dad is on my side and says it’s the obvious thing to do. But my mom says she needs a safe space when she comes home from college and that it’s not fair to her to take her room. My dad has a brother and my mom is an only child. I said that when my sister was home from college I would stay in my old room. To be honest, I can understand why she’s upset by the idea, but if I were her I wouldn’t mind. Me and my dad are both very analytical people (INTP). I have trouble prioritizing feelings in situations. Please let me know if I am in the wrong.