So my husband (30M) and I (29F) got married almost a year ago, and about two months later, his sister moved into our guest room. A bit of context. My SIL is 25 and lived her whole life in Mexico, although she was born in the US. Her family isn’t very well off and she’s here in the US to work a bit while she waits for her nursing degree to transfer. TLDR; she’s here to build her career and start a life and can’t afford to be on her own.

Fast forward 7 months and she’s still here. I was hesitant about his sister moving in because I felt like I was being robbed of what was supposed to be a special first year of marriage, building a home with just my husband. But let’s be honest, I had no say in the matter. She also provides no timeline for when she might start looking for her own place. She has a job and makes decent money now, and doesn’t help pay any of the bills.

I’ve expressed frustration to my husband over the situation and asked that he push her to start coming up with a move out plan. But he says that culturally it would be unacceptable to imply a family member needed to leave. But what about my boundaries? What about my grief at my loss of privacy and peace in my own home?

AITAH for wanting everyday so desperately for her to move out? It’s gotten to a point where I’m considering moving out myself and accepting the affect that’ll have on my marriage.