Hi! I'm new to this Community, my pseudonym is Nelia. So before we get into the main issue, There is something you need to know from my past

My Father (47M) and my Mom (46F) have been married for 16 years and I was the result of it (14F).

"He" has cheated on my mom for multiple times over the span of 14 years due to their issues with the same woman, we'll call her Tiger Lily. And earlier this year, they had a big argument involving the usage of our car, so it's almost been a month and recently, My Uncle (Father's side) arranged an outing for us because it was summer vacation + my grandma's birthday. I really wanted to go but had hesitations since my Mom wasn't going with us, I'm really attached to my mom and I'm not used to going out on a vacation without her, but she said its entirely up to me, and I went.

During the stay on our resort, "He" has been much more distant, I guessed due to the stress of them both not talking. But the day we were about to leave, he asked my cousin to buy some sort of food from the reception at the resort, and when my Cousin returned and handed him the food, I saw his phone, It was opened and he was messaging someone on viber, I didn't see clearly as I had no glasses on, but I could kind of make out the shapes of 'Love you's' and a heart. That instantly made me on high alert mode, but he was swift, he closed the phone before I could even take a picture.

Now, onto the main issue. I didn't mention anything to him and we returned home easter Sunday, then the Next day, which was Monday, He washed our clothes from the outing, when the laundry was finished, I asked him if he was the one who's going to hang the clothes, he said "Hindi na, ikaw na, kaya mo na yan" (Trans: "No, you can do that yourself") Which I may be an ass, I got Sulky/Pouty. So I started hanging the clothes and had to stop for a while since the pizza he ordered just arrived. My Sulkiness heightened since He expected me to Get the Pizza that was four boxes and never helped. So I got the pizza back inside and when he told me to eat, I said I'll eat later because I still had to do my job, I'm that kind of person who wants to finish the job before enjoying anything else. So while I was hanging our clothes, he started helping me in a manner that was highly aggressive.

When I was still hanging he suddenly pulled me, and told me to go inside, I refused and still wanted to do my job and kind pushed him, not hard, but he shoved me in return, he's a big guy so that made me Tumble backward. I asked him what's his problem and he said he doesn't like people getting Sulky when someone asks them to a job (funny, cause he's like that when mom asks him to do something) and that's when the yelling started, and there was a moment where he raised his fist, I flinched, now that I think about it, that was the time where my trust for him shattered. My other Uncle seperated us, but he said something that Made me word vomit and explode

"Kung Gago yung nanay mo, Mas gago ako." (Trans: If your mother is stupid, I'm even stupider.)

That's when my word vomit started, I'll just translate it to English because it was kind of lengthy "You have no shame! My mom it's not stupid! Atleast she doesn't do relationships with other people while she's still married! Yes! I saw those fucking messages you and that woman exchanged! I'm not fucking blind!"

I hit a pretty sensitive topic, I saw the shift in his face, but I couldn't tell what it was. My Aunt, Uncle and Grandma pulled me inside the house. I was shaking, I don't know if it was real, but I locked myself in the bathroom, instantly called my mom so I can go home, but my grandma begged me not to call her. One thing to note about my mother is she's a fierce woman, whenever someone threatens her, she'll strike back. So I called her, begging to go home, she instantly stopped everything from her work and went to the train station to pick me up, and call my uncle (the one who broke us up) in the process, then while I was locked in the bathroom, My uncle just finished talking with my mom, They asked "him" if he really raised a fist at me, he denied it, as always.

When "He" took a bath on another bathroom was when I only exited the bathroom, I don't know but I think I was having a panic attack, I was struggling to breathe. My older cousin, bless her soul comforted me in their guest room. We're the only two cousins who are the only girls and I appreciated the company and silence she provided me. When "He" left for work was when I started packing, and my Uncle took me home.

Arriving home, me and my mom, ate some pizza and drank Nestea and Sprite (Please try that combo, it's heaven.) And I cuddled up to her, I'm that attached, I know.

We talked about what happened (mentioned above) and I started to get weepy, she kind of cried too. And we just hugged each other, she told me her and I told mine thoughts, here's a list

• "He" has always been a womanizer and she was denial all those years

• I told her about what I saw (the messages) and she suspects it was Tiger Lily, I do too • She told me that "He" cheated on her several times already

• She doesn't have the strength to talk with him as she's tired with work

•She wants to go to Cebu alone and if that's okay with me, I told her yes (she's not an AH for wanting time alone, she also gives me alone time every weekend)

•She asked my aunt to tell "him" to not come home until he plans to talk with him

•I told her I planned to Go low contact or No contact at all

•I told her that I was kind of pissed with my grandma asking me not to contact her

• I told her that I don't trust him anymore, I may look over dramatic but knowing the man raising me for 14 years was capable of threatening me with a punch, what more can he do?

• He's a manipulative bastard, we agreed on that.

• I told her that I felt uncomfortable being alone with him in a room at the resort since he planned to get drunk, he asked me where is my fear coming from, I didn't know

• I told her I loved her, and mentioned the Adarna book Mama house and Papa House (Unrelated but, I saw the similarities of the mother and father in my parents. I told my mom of my observations and she told me that some Women are more open and emotionally attached with their children compared to some fathers)

• She told me in any case that "he" comes back home, get some of my spare money, and commute to my aunt's place 20 minutes away (I know how to commute, don't worry)

Sorry if it was a lengthy post, I need some advice, I hope you guys read every paragraph 😓. Also, sorry if there are unrelated topics and I made this post unseriously, I kinda cried when I wrote down what happened. Anyways, have a good day :))