Hi , I am 20 F and have been friend for 4 years with a girl 19 F. For this post's sake we will call her Jenny (not her real name btw) .

So I like to draw read and write these have always been passions of mine ever since I was little.Though I don't plan for now to make any of these my main jobs I still do small comissions from time to time.I don't talk a lots about them publicly and a lots of peoples actually don't really know about it until they really get to know me.

Here then comes my friend , Jenny .She also love the same things as I do and when we first met I was very excited about it.To have someone who likes everything I like and to have someone I can do activites with like draw and shares what we writes.But I quickly learned she really is competitive even when we are just chilling and having a nice time.Everything has to be a competition where she has to win.

I usually don't speak up much about it even if it irritates me a bit which lead me to not even pick up a pen around her anymore in case she decide to start talking about her own progress and how much she liked her drawings compared to mines.I actually did have a fews classes with a friend of my Mom who is a artist working at ubisoft so I know the basics and working on anatomy.I even do comissions on my own.Peoples don't really criticize it and are actually complimenting my art.I feel satisfied with what I can do and have fun.But she seems to treat art as more of a competition and I hate it.She is a self taught artist and I like her artstyle though unconventional

So here was my first time where it became a problem that I noticed which wasn't just with me.I invited a friend over who just recently got into drawing and she is quite a fast learner and her style has a lots of colors it was all fun until Jenny also came by.She decided to join but when my friend shown her ,her drawing she took it and began criticizing it.Then took one of her sketchbook's page and began redrawing it in her style explaining in details why this was better.I looked at her but didn't dare to say anything at the time until she asked me to choose which one was better.

Frankly both looked pretty much the same but I loved my friend's drawing more.It was more original and really shown how much fun and love she had for the character she made meanwhile Jenny's recreation was more sketchy and basic.

Jenny shot me a glare and was overall not happy for the rest of the time she spent at my place that day.After she left my friend came up to me and explained how the comments were unwanted and made her feel bad.I also agreed that they were out of the blue and came out as impolite and rude which I don't think was what she wanted it to come across as.I did agree to have a better talk with Jenny and boundaries the next day after work since we work the same job and often the same shifts.

Jenny told me that it was okay and that she was sorry to have hurt my friend's feelings and that she only wanted to help her improve which I had to clarify that each has their own style and if she wanted help with hers then she would ask.The subject ended on that note for that time.

About a fews weeks later that same friend invited us to a all you can eat sushi buffet along with another friend.I love Sushi so I was excited though they aren't Jenny's favorites she also seemed to be happy to come.Once we sat down we started chatting then came up with a little friendly competition of who could eat the most sushi plates.Which to be fair was mostly just a friendly joke with no real intent to make actually count.But Jenny decided to take it very VERY seriously.She began making comments about how she could eat for twos and even made snarky remarks at my friend for taking a small snack before coming to the lunch.She is diabetic and actually can't fast for too long Jenny do know that but dismissed it as a excuse

Our other friend (male 19) had to be firm and ask her to stop with the comments and the 'contest' which as this point she was the only person participating in.That this lunch was a moment for us all to catch up and not be mean.I asked her more gently that maybe it would be best to not bring up the contest anymore and she agreed while still looking irritated.On the drive back she still made a comment about winning which at this point I dismissed.

Then there was the time that broke the camel's back which was yesterday .I am really into a community which the creator is really involved in.I talked to her a fews times and she is super nice.My friend is also in that community and is quite active too.

So yesterday I made a fanart and decided to mix the character of that fandom into a sort of remix of the Odyssey.I already had started writting a bit of a fanfic about it as well and shown it to Jenny which she really liked.That night Jenny also decided to make a fanart of the serie and post it around the same time I posted mine.The creator decided to interact with my post which I was delighted to do.It was fun to discuss with her the alternative plotline of the story.After a while of this back and forth I went to bed then woke up the next morning to see that the discussion on my post had continued so I went to read it.That's when I spotted Jenny on my post bragging about how she was going to write a fanfic on this and how she even wrote twos pages already.She had put a link to her new post underneath it and after reading it was almost word for word what I did.But since I didn't posted mine because I wanted to finish it first I had no way to prove that it was my work.

I just dm her telling her that I actually planned on doing my own fanfic and that I wasn't bothered that she wrote one based on my idea but it would be nice to not use my starter and my plot idea for the start into her own text.That since she posted it and I could prove I was the one who came up with it that I now had to change my plan.

her answer was "sorry I posted it first "

So I said okay which I still went on to simply change my starter and kept writting from there .The chapter one is posted and actually got a fews likes the creator actually saw it and did ask about what happened when I explained it to her she deleted my friend's post which to be clear I did not ask her to do.

My friend then started texting me saying it was unfair and that I was being petty.That she was better than me and actually was better at writting than me and that she was suprised peoples even liked what I wrote.

In my town there is a writting contest for teens that anyone can participate to.They give you a choice between twos starters and then you just write.Age 12 to 17 are all competing against eachothers and I actually won the public's vote when I was 12 and won the actual prize at 13 for my text.I won a tablet and a 50 dollars gift card from the library that organized the contest which if you need proof I still have the book with all the entries of the twos years I participated in showing also the rankings.

So yes I really like writting fantasy ect and for winning twos years in a row plus a school contest I must not be as bad as she said.So I told her that I must not be that bad if I actually got prizes for my writting meanwhile she didn't get nothing because she couldn't come up with anything creative on her own and that I was tired of her rewritting my stuff to make it better since this wasn't the first time.That maybe if she wasn't as competitive then peoples would actually enjoy interacting with her art and that only doing it to fish for compliment would get her no where.She got mad and blocked me for the night.

The next morning (now yesterday bc its midnight lmao) she unblocked me and began to appologize about everything.That if she was competitive it was because her family always like her brother's talents more and praised him more than her and that she felt left out.I was actually beginning to feel bad until I read the end of her text.

'even if I am better than him now they only see him as the only artistic kid in the house and praise him more than me.'

Her brother is very talented at realistic art even more so a millionth time more than me.I still have yet to answer her text and tbh I don't even know if I can belive she won't continue to turn everything we do into a contest.Should I just move on and would it be awful of me to do so ? I just feel drained to have to always be in this dynamic so idk and that's why I turn to internet strangers for help since most of my friends are personally involved and this and might be biased. (Also sorry for any typos English isn't my first language)