Background - Me female A45, husband A51, no kids. My parents moved out of my home state in 2003 and I haven't spent, to my recollection, a single Easter with them since. My husband is the only child of divorced parents. I've spent every Easter with his family (mom, grandma, cousin, etc) for at least the last 15 years we've been married. My husband's grandma passed just before Christmas at the age of 100. My father A76 was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer 14 mos ago and is now currently enrolled in a clinical trial and my parents have recently relocated back to my home state. My parents uprooted their life in about a weeks time to move back and get into the trial. I mentioned to my husband tonight that I may want to spend Easter with my parents seeing as it's something I haven't done in [what I recall] at least 20 years, but also to ease the burden on my MIL who's currently on disability for a mobility issue. My husband did not take kindly to this and essentially accused me of not wanting to spend the holiday with his mother and that his mother is alone now. I don't know how much time I have left with my dad. We won't know if the clinical trial drug is working until next month. Am I the Asshole for putting my wants and time with my dad over what we're USED to doing? My husband said I needed to consider other people's feelings and involvement around the holidays. I'm not religious by any means - I just care about spending time with my dad while he's here, and esp since I haven't had them here for over 20 years... So...AITAH?