Hi reddit.. I need some advice. I'm still very upset over this and just need to know if what I'm doing is wrong. To make a very long story short: my parents were abusive to me growing up. When I was just over a year old my paternal grandparents adopted me from my parents but still wanted me to see them. I used to see my father after school until my grandparents could get me after work. (My father didn't work and my mother moved to Texas) I've had a very strained relationship with both of them, but mostly my father. He's always been... handsy.. when I was really young my father slipped and broke his back. He got hooked on opioids and became even more abusive.. After many years my mother moved back with my father and shit really became worse, I used to get into screaming matches with both of them but they stopped putting hands on me. Then they moved out of state when I was 16.

My grandparents i view as my actual parents, they have supported me, gone to my sports games, went to my high school graduation, went to my wedding (grandpa walked me down the aisle), and all around where my parents through and through. They have supported me in every way possible and I am forever thankful to them.

Sometimes I get a little sentimental and I like to post my thanks to them on FB. So I did just that a few days ago, and today my father texted me that "i need to check my facts before I open my mouth" and that nothing I posted was true. (Which the post had nothing about my parents in it, just pretty much thanking my grandparents for stepping up and raising me and that I was thankful) and to "check my facts".. Now this is where I maybe an asshole? I told him that he would never know his grandchildren, they are the reason I'm so fucked up mentally and that he was never there for me when I needed a parent. I was a burden to him and he made sure I knew it. That when his ex wife was mental, physically, and verbally abusing me he never stepped in to stop it or help but only ever made it worse. That i was worried they had fucked me up so much I would never get married (I did!) And that my memories are not wrong but because it doesn't fit into the mold of "#1 father" for him I'm wrong. Then I promptly blocked him and my mother.. I am so torn up because I still love my parents but I can't do it anymore, I don't want them in my life or my kids lives... reddit AITAH?? (Sorry it's so long! I really needed to get it off my chest) thank you for reading this!