So my (43m) wife (36f) has been slacking off a lot with getting the kids out the door in the morning for school. I like to check the house cameras to see how they are doing, but I work in construction and I can't always be on my phone to check up on them.

So this morning I confronted my wife about it. My kids were all sitting in the kitchen 15 minutes after school had already started because my youngest daughter wasn't ready yet. The kids have a rule that they have to stick together so no one gets lost or hurt.

I texted my wife asking if there was no school today or something and her response was, ":D :D Our kids are late everyday. Plus I don't feel well today, so they are just on their own."

Our cameras have a speaker in them, but they were blasting music so the kids couldn't hear me. I yelled at them over the camera to go to school right now. I even told them to leave the youngest behind, but my oldest boy (11m) is a good brother and stick around while the other two left for school.

I ended up having a small yelling match with my wife that "I'm going to start a fight that I can't win.

"I was trusting you to be on top of this. If you can't handle it, let me know, and I will tell the company that I need to be back to town now and will switch to the second shift so I can help more. I will just use the van to get to work."

I also told her that of she's sick she needs to plan things out better and prepare for the chaos. I get that it sucks, but if I didn't do the things I have to do every morning I would get fired.

For context, I work out of state in construction (50-60 hours per week) and my wife works part time as a pharmacy tech (roughly 25 hrs a week)

UPDATE I missed some crucial info. 1. I work out of state and am only home every month or so for a weekend. I hate this and am working to find a better job that is local.

1. She wants me to check the cameras to help with the kids as best I can. I'm not on there to be creepy or overbearing.

2. I am autistic with ADHD and the daughter that has the trouble is the same. Everyone else is more or less nerotypical.

3. Evidently this happens so much that the teachers are used to them being late.