He was the one to start the insults, the put downs, the accusations. That was back online where we met and spoke for years. He was paranoid, at times controlling, and he blamed me for all of it. He tried to make it out it was because of issues we had online. That he thought I was messing with him. But he continued to act the same way in person. I noticed early on that he could treat me any way he wants to and justify it. Yet, if I do or say the same things to him then I am horrible and I have to apologize. This is because he feels he is justified, that I made him act the way he does towards me.

He blames me for all of our problems. He says that I am an instigator. Therefore, he labels his treatment of me as reactions to things I've done or said, even when they're not. If I call out any hypocrisy like how he's done or said the same thing to me, he acts like I am trying to justify it, and says that I can't do that. Or he says we have to stop and can't be saying whatever it is to each other, which he is clearly only saying because he doesn't want it to said to him. He then carries on saying it to me. He says I can't be upset over things because I've done, or said them to him, but he gets very upset when I actually do.

There are many examples of all of this. Such as him hitting me because of something I've said more than once and justifying it. When I hit him with my purse after he called me stupid, he lost it, and went on about how wrong it was and how it didn't matter what he said. Of course, he denied calling me stupid. He's called me autistic many times over my anxiety. When I called him autistic he was horrified. He said it wasn't right but has since called me autistic several more times. When I pointed this out he said he had a reason to, and I instigated it probably, and when I said I also had a reason he said "Oh fine we can call each other autistic then."

He's threatened me with people, with going to both his grandmother and his mother, during arguments and disagreements. He has fabricated things they've said against me. He did this dozens of times before I finally did. Before I said I had spoken to someone, and lied about what they said, and he went mental over it raging and threatening to kick me out. When I said I had lied he was in shock and called me manipulative. He is always playing the victim and never acknowledging how he treats me. Always making me out to be the bad guy.