I'm not really sure if I'm in the wrong here. I started a new job (minimum wage, not really important) and I work with one other woman at night. She is a sweet Muslim woman.

The issue is, I'm trans (female to male) and haven't really said anything? I don't pass well at all and many of the people I work with are not native speakers. So it would be difficult for me to convey to every person there (and I tried, trust me).

Anyways, when we were alone and closing up shop, she took off her hijab while washing dishes, and I saw her. She refers to me as her sister, calls me a sweet young lady, etc, in broken English. I smile and nod.

I feel like she's unknowingly committing a sin. I'm not Muslim so I wouldn't know-- the internet wasn't very helpful. There's no clear answer on whether or not a trans man can see a Muslim woman without her hijab.

Do I tell her I'm trans? I'm not exactly worried for my safety, and if she ends up hateful, I'll tell my manager and quit if nothing is done. But I don't want to lie to her... nor do I want to ruin our friendship. I like being her friend, her sister, but I don't want her to reduce me to a gay trans man. Advice would be helpful... am i the asshole for not saying something to her?

(I will not be responding or even acknowledging any hateful comments, whether they are towards me for my gender or sexuality, of if they are towards my coworker for being Muslim and foreign.)