Me 24f and Angela 25f met under weird circumstances when I was 15 or so with a guy I was dating at the time. she was his ex and was in her messages wanting to get back together. She was a girl’s girl and reached out to me. I dumped him and we got close. That doesnt have to do with the story but gives you some background. Fast forward to 2022. She met a guy and they got really close. I was dating someone at the time but we still saw each other regularly. They ended up living together across town and I would visit but not as often as we saw each other before because I was using the public train. When they lived together she paid most of the bills if not all and would occasionally ask me for money while he was “between jobs.” Eventually they lost the apartment and they both have had to move back in with their parents to save up again. In this time he has cheated two or three times. It got to a point where every time I saw her I would be paying for us to do things or she would ask me for money anytime we spoke which I didnt mind, her being my best friend. But Im young and living on my own as well and I work hard. I finally got the courage to talk to her and let her know that I have a hard time setting boundaries but I cant help financially in the ways she needs sometimes because I leave myself vulnerable. That turned into a whole discussion about her feeling like Im comparing how she is with her man than with me. We since have tried talking about how we feel we may have outgrown our friendship in some ways and what our expectations are as friends. We agreed to check in once a week on the phone and try to see each other once a month. The problem is when I message her I dont get responses right away and it feels like pulling teeth. Im always the first and last to reach out and we havent physically seen each other in 13 months now, but we live 10 mins walking from each other.

I dont want to give up a 10 year friendship especially considering how close we have been and how many things we have seen each other through. But I also dont want to initiate another conversation that wont go anywhere. AITAH if I cut off my best friend of 10 years?