First of all, I’m on mobile so I apologize for any formatting abominations in advance.

I’m almost 26. I have two close friends: Sheri (25) and Karissa (almost 30). We all met years ago working at the same shitty job with a nightmare boss. After we all quit, we reconnected months later and started doing weekly or biweekly “bestie dinners,” depending on our schedules. We’re all stoners. I’ve been smoking for over 10 years, Sheri around the same, and Karissa only started in the last year or two. We also drink, but Sheri and I figured out our alcohol tolerances the hard way back in high school—Karissa didn’t go through that, and it shows. On top of that, we all have our own mental health stuff: I’m bipolar and autistic, Sheri has BPD, and Karissa has (unmanaged) ADHD. We’ve tried to address some issues before but it goes nowhere and Karissa ends up pissed off and shuts down completely.

This past January, we planned a group trip to Michigan with two other besties also tagging along. This trip happened last month, March.

Now, let me really dive into what has been going on.

At our regular dinners, Karissa constantly dominates the conversation. She never lets there be a moment of silence. I’m usually high as an eagle’s pussy at these things, and silence helps me keep my anxiety in check. When it gets too chaotic, I start to feel overwhelmed. I just be zoning out occasionally to cope. Karissa doesn’t get that, she never shuts the fuck up, and worse? She takes any silence personally. She’ll make scenes in public, loudly accusing us of ignoring her. She has done this at 3 different restaurants now. One time, we went out for the local gay bar’s anniversary party. Karissa drank way too much, started puking at the bar, then in my car on the way home, and finally all over my house. There’s more to detail but this is the gist. I took care of her. Got her water, made sure she got back to my house safe, gave her fresh clothes and a place to sleep it off. The next day? No apology, no thank you. Nada. At our most recent dinner, we went to Dave & Buster’s. It blew up again. Karissa yelled at us at the host desk over some “communication” issue. Then later in the arcade, she full-on screamed at Sheri and me and stormed off, claiming we “ditched” her. Here’s what really happened y’all: Sheri and I went to try a VR game. Karissa had already run out of tokens and was just watching. My side of the VR glitched, so I wandered off to play claw games. Sheri got vertigo from the headset and went to chill, then played Mario Kart. Karissa ended up using Sheri’s credits to play the VR. Five minutes later, she storms over to me, screaming at the top of her lungs that I ditched her. The security guard who was talking to me walked away saying “yeah imma let you handle that one mamas”. Then she found Sheri and did the same thing before leaving in a dramatic huff. A few days later, my ex started harassing me again (a whole separate nightmare). He kept messaging me from fake accounts on Facebook, even sent me an unsolicited dick pic and started spamming my phone. I screenshotted it and sent it in our group chat. Sheri responded, “Oh my god, what the fuck is wrong with him. But LMAO I can’t wait to see what K says.” Hours later, Karissa got pissed off and told us we should’ve kept that between us. I sent her a private message a few days later, apologizing for dropping the screenshot in the group chat. She told me she was backing out of the Michigan trip due to “financial and mental health struggles.” I said I understood, but she never told Sheri or the others, herself… I had to be the one to let them know. That really should’ve been her responsibility. Fast forward to the trip: we get to Michigan, Sheri arrives separately. She texts the group chat, “K, where are you??” Which… yes, it’s petty, but also LMAO. Immediately, Karissa messages me privately, angry that I hadn’t told Sheri she wasn’t coming. I ignored it. An hour later, she finally messages the group chat, apologizing and saying she forgot to tell Sheri. Then she texts me again (again!) to yell at me privately for not handling her drama for her. After that, I stopped responding. Karissa stayed silent for weeks. Then out of nowhere, she messaged us yesterday like nothing ever happened, all cheerful and casual. Sheri and I didn’t respond. Today, she sent “I guess not” with a shrugging emoji. I’m just… speechless.

AITAH if I just ghost? Realistically, what would a conversation laying out all the grievances even do? Like I said before it has not gone well in the past; she has no self-introspection and is a perpetual victim in her mind.

TLDR: I have a friend who never shuts the fuck up and gets offended when called out on it, among other issues. AITAH if I ghost?