Obligatory this is a throwaway account because unfortunately if I’m gonna get a true opinion from people I need to be specific about certain details, and I don’t want anyone to connect it to my main account

Okay so financially my husband and I have decided it makes more sense for me to stay home with our two children. One is in school and one is close to it. I don’t feel the need to go into detail about how we came to this decision, just know it’s not something we came to quickly and we’re not taking it lightly. He is in sales with unlimited earning potential while I work in the clerk’s office of our town’s courthouse. I’m in an assistant role in one dept and next in line for assistant supervisor in another dept (they kinda overlap). My pay isn’t great but I work four 10’s and the medical benefits are phenomenal. It’s a great career long term as I know I’m part of the succession plan, but right now I’m paycheck to paycheck. It is an elected official’s office though and this is my boss’s last term, so my job is not guaranteed.

My office recently had two people retire. We’ve hired two new people, but they are still too new to let go without supervision. At the beginning of the year we also lost our asst supervisor unexpectedly bc she went crazy on our boss so she resigned/got fired without much notice. The previous week a clerk who does a very important job in our office got a surprise call that she was finally getting her organ transplant with only a day’s notice. She only just returned this week, and goes out again in a little over a month to have the old organ removed. So we’ve had to make do without two people who had very prominent roles in the office on top of losing the two to retirement and having to train the new guys and do all of our normal jobs. Oh did I mention there’s only 5 of us plus a supervisor when there should be double that?

You think the drama ends there? It doesn’t.

The dept supervisor has gone through hell and back recently with her husband’s health. It’s been nonstop issues and near death experiences since November. I’ll spare details, but it all culminated in the loss of part of an important appendage last month and an open heart surgery this past week. Her return to work is a mystery currently.

Our office is in shambles. We’ve been in survival mode for months and it just keeps getting crazier. We have essential jobs that have to be fulfilled, as we are bound by law in eveything we do. It’s important work, and I will put a lot of pressure and work on my coworkers when I leave.

To top it off, nearly every single person who works in my office has a connection outside of work to me or my family. So not only would I be letting my office down, but it could easily affect my personal life as well.

It’s gonna suck and it will be so hard knowing I’m letting people down, but my gut says that leaving is the right thing for my family.

If it matters I’m planning to give them 4 weeks notice.

Am I the asshole for quitting my job and kinda screwing them over?