Okay, so I already made a post and kind of feel like I got permission to ghost a friend group that befriended my abusive ex. They had been the ones supporting me after I left.

But then I quickly forgave them—in a sense, in that annoying way I do so often, so easily. But this time im being health about it. I’m still going to separate from them, but I don’t feel like I can entirely ignore whole picture. I know now that I can't let people hurt me just because I love them.

So I wrote something that I would send and them and my ex in a group chat, then ghost. Give some closure, before closing everything down, not letting myself fall into a conversation afterward. But now I’m second-guessing whether that would make me TAH. Especially the group chat because, while it feels more genuine if I'm not doing personal massages, I also feel there it something in grouping then together that feels justified.

And so, I’m coming to you again.{

The letter,

"I want to say thank you. For all the offers to help—it genuinely means so much to me, and I deeply appreciate the care behind it. But accepting feels complicated, like it might tie us closer in ways I can’t manage right now. I don’t want to give mixed signals or create a sense of obligation, especially when my heart is still searching for clarity.

The truth is, this isn’t easy for me to say. I care about each of you deeply, and that hasn’t changed. But I’ve realized I need to step back—not out of anger or blame, but to take care of myself and find space to heal. The choices that were made, whether you were fully aware of their impact or not, have left their mark on me, and I can’t ignore that anymore. This isn’t about erasing the good we’ve shared or punishing anyone—it’s about mending what’s within me. I hope you can understand how difficult this is for me to say and why I believe it’s something I need to do. For all of us, this space might bring clarity—a way to grow and move forward in a healthier direction. "