Bit of a long read, sorry.

This morning my beautiful 16 y/o cat passed away. She had been in poor health but not in pain and my husband and I were with her when she peacefully passed. She was really more attached to my husband and daughter (7y/o) but had been my cat for several years before hubby and I got together.

Today, around noon, I was supposed to go to my mom's house to do some yard work for her. I called her around 9 this morning and told her about Yoshi passing away. She was sympathetic at first. The conversation went something like this.

Me (nearly crying)- Hey mom. Yoshi died this morning.

Mom- OH my God, I'm so sorry to hear that.

Me- (explains to my mom she died with hubby and I and she was purring at the end)

Mom- That really is the best way she could go. So, I assume you don't want to come do yardwork today?

Me- I am sorry mom, but no. We need to go dig a grave for her and break the news to kiddo.

Pause

Mom- well I really do need some yardwork done. Don't you think kiddo would want to come over for a while?

Me- Mom.....I don't think we can do that. I am sorry, can we do it another day?

Mom- I don't know. I mean, it is just some raking and emptying pots. If you really think you can't I guess that's. Bye.

Conversation over. No I love yous exchanged or anything.

She calls me back an hour later. I thought maybe to make amends. I was wrong. Convo #2.

Me- Hey mom.

Mom- are you sure you can't come over for just an hour? I have work to do in the garden.

Me- Mom, I really can't.

Mom- I promise I won't ask again. I never ask for help. (She has had my husband and I help in the yard for around 5 years)

Me- I really can't mom. I have to go dig a grave.

My mom hung up.

I spent today greiving the loss of a friend of 16 years with my hubby, daughter and MIL (who helped me dig a grave for my lovely queen)

So reddit, am I the asshole for asking to delay yardwork so I could tend to my dead pet? Sorry if that question seemed passive aggressive, I am still pretty upset by the death of what we considered a family member.