AITA?

I’m a new mother with a 3 month old baby who is suffering with severe back pain from pregnancy and birth. I am currently in physio to take care of this and I am not as mobile as I used to be. My husband, baby and I recently moved into a new place in March and it’s in need of a deep clean because I simply can’t do the moping vacuuming etc by myself and tend to my baby. My husband works long hours starting from the wee hours of the morning until dinner time and he works in the construction industry so it takes a toll on him as well because he cooks when he comes home, helps clean up when he’s off work and up with us during night feeds sometimes. But I simply need a deep clean.

Fast forward, I found an app that connects neighbours together and people promote their businesses on there. I went into a deep search for a cleaning service that charges a decent price given I am on half of my salary pay and my husband handles the bills etc. I found a business run by a woman who charges $40 an hour, she posted videos of her cleaning and before and after a so I gave her a call and we had scheduled a date and time (which wasn’t an exact time, she would give me an estimate of when she would arrive) first unprofessional red flag. Anyhow, I had anticipated her coming and my plan was to work with her while the baby sleeps or just hangs out that way I can help her too, it’s a fairly small place anyhow so it wouldn’t be too much work. The doorbell goes off and I brought the baby with me to answer because I was rocking her to sleep, I look through the peephole and saw a man. Mind you, I was speaking with a woman over the phone and in text messages and she always said “ I” and essentially made it sound like she was the one coming to clean. Right away I was take aback and asked who he was and he told me he was there to clean, I asked where the woman I was speaking with this whole time was, he said she was at home with her baby because it was fussing so she sent him and her husband is on the way to join him for the cleaning job. I was confused and on the spot I let him in, and as soon as the door closed I really felt uncomfortable and blindsided so I told him it was ok for the cleaning job, and I will cancel and my husband will help me when he arrives and I thanked him for his time and asked his name. He looked just as confused as I did, once he left he stood at the bottom of my steps and called the woman I agreed to the job with. She called me and asked why I canceled and right there I explained to her that I was under the impression she, herself was coming to clean. She asked if I still wanted the service and to reschedule I told her no it’s alright I will find someone else or my husband will do it. Once we hung up she sent me a text saying “normally I charge a cancellation fee of $100 but for you I can charge half, or reschedule and come personally to do the job”. I called her back that second and blasted her while my husband was listening on the other end and I told her how dare she sent two grown men to my house under the pretense she was coming. I am a new mother with a 3 month old at home and vulnerable and what she did was put me in a very uncomfortable situation. She then went on about how well their cleaning skills are, she is also a mother of 3 kids and we actually bonded over that on our first call. So I said again, how come you do not disclose that information on your business listings that you have employees that work for you. Even if she told me once we decided to do business together, hey I’m not able to make it so I have two guys coming to do it. I felt ambushed and very uncomfortable, frozen and scared. I then told her I couldn’t believe she asked me for $100, ONE HUNDRED DOLLARS? When the service is $40 dollars an hour? Her reason was for the supplies, I took a picture of the man outside my bedroom window the man had half a paper towel roll in his cleaning bucket. I told her I would write a review warning women that if they do book her services it will be men arriving, and don’t get me wrong, men do have cleaning jobs as well but in this day and age I am so fucking sorry I will not have two grown ass men in my home whom I don’t know with my brand new baby. Anyways, she apologized after I blasted her and I told her I will not leave a review but don’t ask me for one god damn cent. Now I’m scared because they have my address and that man could very much feel offended and I totally understand if he does but oh well my safety and my baby’s safety is more important than his feelings. I watch too many true crime docs and dateline to ever think it’s ok to have strange men in your home when you’re vulnerable especially. So, am I the asshole for kicking him out and canceling the job on the spot?

Ps, I’m an empath so I feel like shit for possibly offending him but I have never been that uncomfortable or scared in my life. And of course it’s because I have my baby with me, other than that I can always hold my own. First post, be gentle I am postpartum, thank you for listening.