I’ll try to make this a short as possible. I got an apartment with a coworker last august in order to save some money on rent and she was living in her car at the time so it was a benefit for her also. Before we agreed to look for a place together we talked about preferences such as smoking in private areas and rules on visitors having friends over etc. I am from out of state so naturally she knows more people than I do. We both agreed that we are not big people people and we wanted space to relax and rest. She said she would have a few people over occasionally but nowhere near an everyday basis, Cool! I even let her stay at my apartment rent free for 2 months so she could save to get us in the new apartment and she wouldn’t have to spend money on a hotel room. From the moment she got to my apartment she had a friend, her boyfriend but not official boyfriend and “there kids” over and I just let it slide trying to be nice. She even made a joke that she had more visitors than I did. During our convo kids and boyfriend were never mentioned to even exist so that caught me by surprise.

Fast forward to our new place together and from day 1 the boyfriend was at the house. It started with him coming staying the night once or twice a week. They would be gone (I guess at his place) 2/3 times a week as well so I kept quiet as it wasn’t too often and I wanted her to be comfortable in her space too. By the time December hit, 1/2 nights a week turned into every single night that he was there. When January came around I asked what was going on because at this point he lives there and these can’t be considered visits anymore. She gave me some story on how his place is uncomfortable for him but it’s his aunt so he feels bad leaving knowing she depends on his rent but he doesn’t want to be there. Promises that he’s not moving in etc because that’s not what we agreed to. Probably a week or so later I come home and his car is outside but hers isn’t. I go in he’s there she’s not. I sent her a text asking what’s going on and she’s like how she got called into work while he was sleeping and didn’t want to wake him. About a week after that I’m in my room home alone and hear the door unlock and assume she walks into her room. Upon looking out the window it’s his car outside not hers. So I text her again asking if she gave him a key and she responds yes nonchalantly. I try to stay calm but let her know my displeasure of her giving keys to someone who doesn’t live here and especially without asking me first as that made me highly uncomfortable. Because at this point the man lives here. I ask her what’s the plan on him paying rent and she gives me some story how they want to get a place together and she has to prove to him she can handle her rent so she doesn’t want to ask him for any money. I’m just appalled because I have lent her money to get out of her situation but yet she’s sleeps next to this man every night and doesn’t want to ask him.

The time I lent her $600, was my part of the rent money for February. She asked to borrow it to fix her car and she would pay that back to the rent. She spent the next few months trying to catch up but she was always behind. Now I’m not perfect and have been behind on my rent but always paid the month due within the same month (had January paid b4 February was due for example) she always had something to say when I was late on rent whereas I never said anything to her about being behind. It got to the point where my months rent was being used to cover what she had leftover the month before to avoid being evicted. She even had the nerve to catch an attitude with me saying I need to pay on time so we can catch up the month b4 and she had more time to pay her share. Again whole time there is a grown man with a key to the apartment not paying any rent from December to April. Finally fed up, I quietly got my affairs in order and at the end of march I packed all my things I needed and moved out while they were both at work. I could not keep putting up with this until august when the lease was up so I just left. The part I do feel like the AH, not only for leaving but I didn’t pay my portion of Marchs rent which was about $800.

AITAH for just leaving my roommate and her bf in the apartment without caring if they get evicted?