At 6:30 my spouse(40M) gets home and we go to a campground party as a family of 3. He asked me to go. No mentions of his friends being there, showing up or even being invited.

Come to find out his plan was to party with his buddies and me to keep an eye on the baby the entire time where it’s cold, wet and very close to her bedtime.

The baby isn’t having it and him and I left an hour later. The plan was spouse either was getting a ride home, calling me to come get him, or staying the night at his cousins house.

Before I even left he said he didn’t want to stay. That his friends would bring him home.

Meanwhile I’m getting texts saying he wishes I was there and whatever…. But yet had I known the plan from the beginning I could have found a sitter and enjoyed myself?

Well these friends left to go bar hopping.

Spouse said NOTHING to me until I called him at 1AM to ask what he was doing and all he said was “well can you pick me up in the morning?”.

I hung up the phone. Locked the doors. And am now highly annoyed.

He called back and said “well you don’t have to be mad at me, friends left and said they would be back and they haven’t come back yet”

So I said… so what…. You could have communicated when they left that hey I might need a ride or I might have to stay the night. And that he wasn’t being respectful or responsible.

Now he’s giving me the I’m so sorry. I’m really lacking there and I wasn’t being mindful. Trying to guilt trip me for feeling bad. “This is the best day I’ve had in 5 years” when we’ve been together for 5 years. Wtf is that supposed to mean?

AITAH? Is ANYONE here the asshole?