Hello, Please forgive me as English is not my first language.

I (21 NB) am about to finish university and move in with my boyfriend of 3 years. My boyfriend didn't attend university, not that I have any qualms about it, and has been preparing to release a music album as an independent artist.

Last week I listened to his albums for the first time as he has been very secretive and I didn't want to crush his creative process.

The songs were very degrading. From just my memory, many of the songs were about sex and sleeping with many women and promoting cheating and male domination. The were very shallow, generic songs that didn't match the caring, genuine man I fell in love with.

When I told him this he became very offended and angry and ranted that I didn't understand the music industry like he did.

Here's where I may be the AH:

In my culture, moving in with your partner is the same as getting engaged. He knew as much and our families have been preparing for our new life together. A few days ago, I told him that if he ran away in guilt from facing his music, we are not ready to live with each other ( he has his own apartment and I live on campus but usually we visit each other daily )

He messaged his family and mine and everyone is upset. We had been planning an engagement and housewarming party that I have now canceled.

I think he thinks I want to break up with him but I don't. I'm just confused and want to you understand why he wrote a dozen songs about how non-men are lesser than.

Is this something I should have looked past? Should I have handled this differently?

PS- I don't think anyone in both our families has listened to his songs yet, though.