My ( F43) daughter Francesca (12F) and her two friends, Pete and Enzo (12M) are pretty much inseparable at school and social activities. Part of the reason is because of affinities (all of them enjoy playing sports and have known each other from kindergarten), part is because the moms are friends too, so we all hang out. Like my friend Missy (38 F) The other day, we were all at another friend's kid's b-day, and towards the end of the party, Francesca asked me if she could invite Pete to stay over. I said okay, and left for a minute to talk to the kid in question's mom to make arrangements. Missy, who is Enzo's mom, overheard something afterwards, and her attitude towards me totally changed. By the time I got back, to talk to her, she was getting her check (the birthday we were at was at a day club of sorts), and I barely had time to invite her son too. BUt I did, and when I asked her, Mjssy said, very curtly: "no, he wont go. Francesca asked for Pete, not Enzo!" I was a little taken aback. She hasnt spoken to me since And I heard she had yelled at my daughter and at the birthday girl too. A few days later, I also heard that she had been badmouthing me, saying she was shocked and she expected a different attitude from me. What exactly was she expecting? That I disinvite Pete? What should I have done? I feel like I couldnt have done anything differently, I pretty much covered all the bases, but after what she said (also claiming that my daughter is not a good friend) I am very confused. Was I the ASSHOLE?