I (29f) have been with my partner (28m) for 13 years. Since he‘s known me, he knows I’ve had a fear of roller coaster rides. I’m not scared of heights, it’s the adrenaline and lack of trust for man made things that I have A fear of. Granted I’m always down to go to an amusement park. I love seeing people have fun, eating funnel cakes and getting cool souvenirs.

Today we were talking about plans for the summer and he insisted I needed to get on a ride. Every summer I do and it never ends well. I have an autoimmune where I already feel chronic fatigue. After adrenaline rushes I feel even worse. Today he called me selfish for not wanting to do the things he enjoys. Which is crazy because this selfish person is more than happy to pay for a ticket to be a bag/phone holder and it doesn’t seem like a problem for him then. Also our friends always tag along so it’s not like he’s going on his own. I am 29, I’m not old but we’re not kids. Calling someone selfish for not wanting to do a ride to me is so immature.

I’m not mad he’s not understanding about me not wanting to get on rides, I’m mad he called me selfish and making it seem like I don’t care for the things he does. He loves sports, so I learned a lot about it for him. He loves gambling, so I tried understanding more about it. He loves sneakers, so I tried learning more about It. To say I’m selfish and don’t recognize the stuff he’s into Is so crazy to me.

aitah?