Ok this is my first Reddit post so I’m new to all this but I’d thought I’d share my story… I (25F) have been with my fiancé (27M) for about four years. We were planning to get married September of this year, everything in the relationship was going amazing until I was completely blindsided. After four years of us dating i had found out he had been cheating on me. I was heartbroken and that’s not even the worst part…He was cheating with a 17-year-old girl.

I found out when I went on his phone to find a relative but a message popped up that obviously wasn’t anyone that I knew so I went through them. There were messages where they were clearly talking in a romantic and sexual way. When I confronted him, he tried to deny it at first and make excuses but soon he admitted to everything. He said it had been going on for a while and that it wasn’t just a fling. I was absolutely devastated. Not only was he cheating, but he was involved with a minor. I felt sick to my stomach.

After everything came to light, I ended things immediately. I couldn’t stay with someone who would do that to me, especially someone underage. I then reported him to the police. Most of my family told me I was being to extreme but I felt like it was the right thing to do. It wasn’t just about the cheating; it was about the fact that he was involved with someone who wasn’t even legal. I don’t think that’s something that should just be swept under the rug.

Since the breakup, things have gotten bad. He’s been stalking me showing up at places I go, texting me non-stop, and making me feel unsafe. I’ve blocked him on everything, but it hasn’t stopped him. I’m really scared, honestly.I’ve gone to the police multiple times but it seems like they just don’t care and brush it off..

What’s making this whole situation even more complicated is that his family has been contacting me. They’re telling me I’m overreacting, that I shouldn’t have reported him, and that I shouldn’t have ended the relationship over this. They even said things like, “you should’ve just talked to him about it” and “he’s still a good person.” “You’re childish for leaving him you will never find someone better than him” They’re making me feel like I’m the one who’s crazy for reporting him, and it’s been messing with my head.

So, now I’m wondering if I’m wrong. Am I the asshole for reporting him to the police and ending the relationship? Or is his family insane and just trying to guilt trip me back into the relationship..