My husband and I have been intentionally budgeting our lifestyle with the goal of eventually acquiring a business. While we live comfortably, we stick to a budget. Recently, we talked about the idea of taking a trip, and he suggested something simple and local, like camping.

For context, I'm the primary caregiver for our two-year-old, and I'm about to start a demanding graduate program at the end of May. Given all that, I was surprised and honestly hurt when he suggested buying a solo plane ticket to visit his family and a friend—without me or our child.

I can't help but feel a sense of resentment. It’s frustrating that, just before I take on this major commitment, he’s planning a personal getaway, leaving me to manage everything at home. I rarely get time to myself, yet he’s able to regularly schedule entire days to play recreational sports. Meanwhile, I have to constantly find creative ways to bring our daughter along just to get out of the house.

What really stings is that we could have taken a trip together as a family—a way to reset and recharge before I start my program—but instead, he chose to take a trip alone. It feels like he didn’t consider that I might also need a break, especially with what’s ahead.

Am I wrong for feeling this way? I don’t want to be unfair, but I also feel like my needs and exhaustion aren’t being seen.